If a child has been in hospital.....

[Akifden]

Would you expect a get well soon card or call from grandmother and auntie?

I would not expect a card from anyone but ive always found get well soon cards odd. I would expect a phone call or a visit though.

No. I have had 4 kiddie hospital stays and not got cards nor thought to.

I wouldn't be pushed about a card but would definitely expect a call or a visit.

But then, I like to make hospital visits as positive as possible and cards seem a bit too pitying tbh.

I wouldn't expect a card, I would expect some sort of contact.

Ok so no contact at all is a bit odd?

Unless they have spoken to another relative and passed on wishes that way then yes.

When DS is in hospital other than my sister all other family communication tends to go through my parents but they pass on wishes if that makes sense?

Would like to say i hadn't thought about until we got a card or call from everyone but these people which made it seem
uncaring but I'm not sure if I'm being over sensitive .

How close are they usually though, do you communicate usually? When my DS was in hospital I had no contact from my Brother although he must have known but then we dont usually communicate anyway.

Also depends how long/how serious the hospital stay I suppose.

I'd expect a call/text from a grandparent but not from an auntie.

I can't really answer without context. Get well soon cards are a bit weird IMO - OTT if it is nothing serious, but twee and potentially upsetting if there is the very real possibility of them not getting well.

If these are generally kind and loving relatives then it wouldn't cross my mind to be upset.

Of course it depends on your relationships with them, but I would certainly expect a call.

They normally place a lot of importance on cards.

Thanks MrsDeVere I just feel odd about it.

It depends - my nephew was in hospital and I rang my mum rather than my sister, because talking to me would be just another thing to do. I text her, so she knew I was thinking about her, but all verbal communication was done through mum and mum told the rest of us.

It never crossed my mind to send a card.

Thanks again. I think I wouldn't normally bother but when you're already feeling a bit stressed silly things play on your mind more don't they? I'm sure I'll get past it .

Your "close" relative sounds a lot like them. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't believe someone could be so thoughtless.