I have a friend who has been and still is like a mum to me. I love her dearly. We met about 15 years ago because we have kids in common....both our boys have special needs and are the same age.
Tragically my friend had a daughter who would have been my age, but she sadly died in childhood.
My friend is amazing and went on to remarry and have her dear boy. She is wonderful and i dote on her, she moved a few years ago but i still make the trip every few weeks to get together with her and i suppose we do some "mother daughter" type things, lunch, shopping, gossip.....
while there recently we were going through a little dish of rings she had on the sideboard, she loves rings and changes them regularly, all dress rings and usually in silver.
Her taste is modern, so while looking through some i picked up a gold band with white stones in, i had been trying them on and she said to try this one, it fit beautifully and she said keep it - she never wears it and its not really to her taste.
i asked if she was sure, and said i would wear it because i loved it. She said she thought it was gold. I said are you sure because it looks like its got diamonds in it - she said she couldnt remember where she got it and it might have even been her mums, but she doesnt wear it so i was welcome to it. I did say that if it turned out to be a family heirloom she knew where it was!
ive cleaned it up with my other rings in vodka, and its come up sparkling. I truly think it may be diamond set. It looks exactly like my other diamond rings (i only ever wear the same few rings, all gold, all diamond) Its like a half eternity ring
should i tell her i think it might be diamonds?
should i take it to a jeweller to find out?
or should i just wear it as i would anyway regardless of whether it is real or fake?
i would never part with it and if she wanted it back i would give it back in a heart beat.
she is really special to me because i dont have a mum and she is missing a dd.....ive never dared presume that she felt the same way, but we are really close and can talk about anything and everything and i can honestly say that i do love her like a mum. She and her boy are the only adults outside the family that i buy for at xmas and birthdays, and we bonded over shared experiences of having our boys with the same condition so we always have a go to someone to moan at when things get rough....
im digressing. should i keep this ring and forget about whether it is diamond or should i get it looked at by a jeweller and if its turns out to be valuable tell her and ask if she wants it back? she must have known if it was her mums that it might be the real thing though surely? and i dont want to offend her....i couldnt afford something worth a fiver today in a shop and she ended up buying it for me....i ended up chasing her trying to give her her fiver back but she walked off shouting "its done, just bloody buy it!" (in a nice way - not a grumpy way!)
ive never had anyone give me anything like this before and im not sure how to react - accept gracefully and forget it or find out if its real diamond and tell her?
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