I almost feel silly writing this. There are so many other real concerns out there. But i have a situation which I believe I am not handling well.
Our daughter goes to a local nursery around the corner. One of the dads, a very friendly, sociable guy, is quite invasive. So when my daughter didn't settle into nursery, he would take her hand from mine, kneel down, chat to her and bring her into the nursery block and say goodbye to her on my behalf. It really annoyed me, even if it was well-intended. After the third time of doing this, I told him, "I need to be the one saying goodbye to my little girl, but thanks anyway. You're very kind." He's always asking me for coffee and I am always saying "No I can't". I find myself lying (oh my husband is at home waiting for me, my eldest son is home from school ill so I need to run, I have a doctor's appointment, etc). He always tries to get me to commit to a day in the future when we can have coffee and instead of cutting him off, I say "Maybe, I'll see how my week goes." He's always suggesting we get our kids together to play. We are both married and I am heavily pregnant now with my third, so I don't think he fancies me or anything like that. But now I find myself taking my daughter in late to school because I can't face the exhaustion of having to deal with this guy who is often standing there, waiting to chat. I just don't know how to handle this without being cold about it and I find that really hard to do. Advice? Should I just wear a t-shirt that says, "I am not a coffee or school gate parent?" because I am so not that parent. I'm nice, but I am distant.