I would be interested in other peoples experiences or views. My Mum moved down from Yorkshire to Hampshire 2 weeks before my DD due date. I had not asked her to do this but it would be her first Grandchild and she was not taking no for an answer. She lived about 9 miles from us and was constantly coming round. My partner and I split when my DD was 2yrs as he refused to get a job and I had to work full time with PND. Before the split my Mum looked after my daughter whilst my partner "looked" for a job. I paid my Mum some money each month to cover petrol etc. I suppose I just let this happen as I thought it would be nice for my mum and her husband to spend time with her grandaughter! When my partner and I split I moved closer to mum who lived across town and she became my daughters carer when I was working or my DD was not at nursery. my partner has never contributed to my DD upbringing and therefore I had to work full time. In time my daughter started school and Mum would pick her up and take her to her various activities. During the day she would come round when I was at work to do housework. I had never asked here to do this but she likes to keep busy. She has actually taken over much of my life and feels that herself and me are interchangeable in my daughters view, ie we are both equally her mother!! She would tell me how to look after her and what I "needed" to do in order to care for my DD! Most of the time I would just hold my tongue. As added info, she had not talked to my Brother for about 7 years because he had disrespected her!? and she had lost friends and alienated family members who no longer speak to her. I have now met someone and we recently bought a house together moving about 8 miles from my mum. My partner has no children but is great with my DD who is now 5yrs old and in turn she loves him very much. I have become more independent with the help of my new partner and basically my mum feels her nose has been pushed out of joint! My partner has now been offered a job in Jersey and my DD and myself are going to go with him. my Mum is "gutted" and all she can talk about is how it is going to affect her! She says she cannot be happy for me. She has decided to move back to Yorkshire as there is nothing here for her anymore. Then this weekend I called her to see how she was and she told me she had been waiting for me to call, she then went on to say that she did not want me anywhere near her house ever again and I was not to call her ever again, she was finished with me and would soon be gone ( back up north I think..) Part of me is relieved as she is such a difficult woman who is very bitter about life and what has happened to her in the past, 3 failed marriages and not quite where she wants to be in life. She has no interests or friends because she will not make the effort and feels like life owes her! I can't quite believe she would cut off her only granddaughter and I don't quite know what to do next. She is exhausting and controlling and I maybe better off without her but I feel guilty even though I have done nothing wrong! I have had counselling before about my relationship with her and to try and deal with the constant guilt she makes me feel. Would it be acceptable to no longer talk to her and no longer contact her ,as she has requested. advice and thoughts very gratefully received. Huge post and thank you for reading!