I threw my XH out last summer, have bought my own house. However when he comes round to collect children there's always some excuse why he just wanders through rooms, looking around.
Last night was worst, I'd gone upstairs to get changed and he just ran up, straight into my bedroom where I was undressed. I told him in no uncertain terms this was entirely unacceptable.
Also, he's constantly asking me questions about where I'm going and what I'm doing, and when I tell him it's none of his business, he sarcastically laughs and says 'oohhhh mysterious' as if I'm hiding something.
The way I see it is, it is MY own home, not his, and my life is my own. But he constantly wants a part of everything.
If the tables were turned he'd be outraged, but I'm not like him, and besides I couldn't give a flying f**k what he does when he's not got the kids.
He was very controlling when we were married so I realise that this trait continues (he used to go through my things, looking for what I don't know).
My ds is 12 and dd 9, very bright kids and devastated by the separation. I've been careful to try and make the transition easy for them, but I want to be able to tell him straight that he can't just continue to act like me and my things belong to him. However, he then makes out to them I'm the one in the wrong.