Three years ago my fil died and some of my ils turned against me. The will was mostly in my husbands favour, his sister and step mother were angry and took it out on me, basically verbally assaulted me and spread lies to anyone who would listen, making me very paranoid, I was accused of being disrespectful at the funeral as I sat with my lovely husband on the front row (at his request) I was called a fat f£@? On my Facebook page , on my birthday was sent two seventies style cards from smil and sill with 'Hope you get everything you deserve this year' and generally was treated in the worst way. I promise that I had never did anything except be there for them both. In fact a month before fil died my 'sister' as she called herself was my daughters godmother at her christening. I was also suffering pnd and felt they preyed on me.
Fast forward three years. I am stronger. People in our very close knit community gave been lovely, some even saying they both have past form of this kind of thing etc. pnd seems to be hone, mostly.
But.....every Christmas they pass on huge presents to my mil (sil mum who is wonderful, caring and hates how her daughter has behaved towards me but just tries to keep the peace). I said three years ago that I didnt ever want a thing from them as the way I handled these toxic people was to block their existence from my brain and in the main it had worked. I tell mil every year not to bring it all round as it just stirs it all up in my mind.
Wwyd? Accept it and pass it on to my dd
Accept it and post it back?
Accept it and charity shop it?
Do as I do now and say no thank you but feel like I'm the paean one trying to cause trouble?
They have never apologised and we have never spoken dine but it did break my heart.Thanks for reading x