'Round robin' wedding thank you cards

[ThePartyArtist]

Received an (admittedly handwritten) thank you card today from a friend whose wedding we went to last month. I thought it a bit off that it was a round robin message with no 'Dear...'; to paraphrase - 'thanks for your kind gift and for sharing our special day', especially as we put a lot of thought into the gift (sourced from an artist in another country as it had a connection to the location where they got engaged). What do you think?

I think they will probably say thank you properly when they next see you. Writing thank-you notes at all at this time of year is pretty heroic in my eyes.

I think they said thank you.

Handwritten shows time and effort far beyond that which I would do

I would just be glad it was acknowledged.

The wedding was in November, according to OP - so for those they didn't have time to write to before the wedding, there's still been quite a lot of time.

Yes, a personalised thanks is the the norm, and pret tymuch the minimum. It needn't be long, but does need to specify the item (so if eg bought/sent 12 wine glasses but you received only 6 they know to get on to the store). But it need not be short.

And you don't need to thank people for coming - the correct way round is for guests to thank hosts.

Agree with Farahilda.

Also agree with Farahilda.

I was lucky enough to have to write 70 thank yous after our wedding. All mentioned the gift and all were written the weekend we got back from honeymoon or within 48 hours of receiving the gift for those that came later. Anything else is just bad manners regardless of whether it's cash/vouchers or something like the OP gave.

So basically she copied the same message out x number of times without personalizing it in any way?

Lazy and bad mannered.

I don't like that! We wrote personal thank-yous. Apart from a few were the tags had fallen off and we didn't know which was which.

Yes it was just the same message written out by hand - 'thank you for your gift and for sharing our special day' or something. I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds this a bit off but I don't suppose it matters really.