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Gently locating half-siblings...

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duchesse · 15/08/2013 18:12

To cut a very long story very very short, my recently departed father had two daughters with a married woman in the 60s. The story my mother was told was that the husband was not fertile and they made their own arrangements with my father. One daughter was born in 1964, around the time my parents met. The other is about a year younger than me, and a few months older than my next oldest sister. My mother did not know about this one.

Thing is, apparently my father went on holiday with the woman and the two daughters for a very long time, until they were in their teens in fact. Christ only knows how he managed it but he did. My mother must be mad have the patience of a saint. It wasn't a question of them being entirely someone else's children. My father took an interest in their upbringing. He broke ties with the family when they allowed the oldest daughter to pose for soft porn photos in her mid-teens. Otherwise he probably saw them as often as he saw us.

One of my sisters now wants to find our half-sisters to tell them our father has died. Another thinks we shouldn't in case they don't know. I kind of err on the side of letting sleeping dogs lie. Two of our siblings have no opinion on the matter.

WWYD?

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duchesse · 15/08/2013 18:42

Bumpity-bump.

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Bellts · 15/08/2013 21:07

bump. hope you get wise answers x

DontmindifIdo · 15/08/2013 21:15

Hmm, I would start by trying to locate the mother if she's still living, she should be able to tell you if they know or not.

Otherwise, they've been raised by a man who seems to have been unbelievably understanding (did he go on the holidays too!?) and it seem cruel to turn up to tell them their childhood was a lie. Surely if they know it would be relatively easy for them to trace you?

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duchesse · 16/08/2013 07:21

Dont, I don't think he did go on the holidays. Most of my father's life is mired in mystery though... I feel really quite sorry for the girls' father tbh.

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duchesse · 21/08/2013 14:00

Ok, so piecing together everything I know, I'm pretty certain that I can get the mum's contact details through 192.com on payment of a small fee. The internet has produced nothing else so far- it seems they aren't involved in anything that ends up online. What shall I do?

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