Fathers lack of interest in his children

[theresnobook1983]

I separated from my husband 3 years ago and the only reason I stayed in the area is so the children had a relationship with him. The days he did have the children he didn't look after them and I stopped access until he straightend himself out. This has gone on for 3 years, I allowed access and now he doesn't stay in contact at all, he has started a new relationship and the children only have contact with him one day a week at his moms. I want to move from the area to give the children a better life, but feel guilty incase in the future they blame me for moving them away from their Father. What should I do, i'm at a cross roads????

You do what suits you the best

The children are not stupid.

I keep telling myself the same thing, and yes the children aren't stupid. They know whats happening, but as a mom I want to spare them from any upset I can. Too some that sounds stupid, but to me its not. Thanks

You are not stupid, love.

You need to put yourself first now. If that necessitates moving away, then so be it. He had his chance and he is found wanting, he will have to make the best of it. His choice.