ok, here goes...DP and I had unprotected sex last night and this morning I realised I am about 10 days from the end of my cycle - ie 10 d til next period due so probably quite fertile...however I am now 44 so maybe not all that fertile after all...
We usually use withdrawal method. It would not be end of world if I got pregnant, though we are not planning it.
This morning I realised where in the cycle I am (have had a lot going on so wasn't that sure last night) and that it might be fertile time.
Had chat with Dp about it this am and whether I should take morning after pill. We are both very ambivalent. Practically speaking having a baby wouldn't be fab. We don't have an extra bedroom, I have two DD from a previous relationship (11 and 8) who are still having their issues (minor really, but requiring support) since the breakup of that and not living with their dad anymore (we split 3 years ago) and I get very anxious about them on occasion, and am wracked with guilt about how I have "ruined their lives" (ExP is a lovely man and good dad on many levels but was a highly functioning alcoholic who nearly wrecked my head)and of course, I am 44 years old so not a spring chick anymore. BUt on the other hand emotionally we would both love a baby and feel on some sort of level we could cope with that.DP is a year younger than me and has no kids of his own. My kids live with us 95% of the time and he is really good with them.
We went to town and bought the MA pill just so we had it and last time we talked, around lunchtime, DP said ok maybe you should just take it. WE dithered and dathered about whether we should just let fate take over or what. We both admitted that if I just fell pregnant using the normal withdrawal method in any given month we'd be ok with that and move on but it seems different somehow that we've realised this might be a fertile time and so it's a bit more like planning...so we should nip it in bud so to speak, since we can
hah hah - I realise how ridiculous this probably sounds
anyway, then I went googling chances of falling pg at 44 and it looks like they are pretty minuscule (read somewhere about 1.6%) so I'm thinking I probably don't even need to take it and could just let mother nature make the decision for us
so I haven't taken it. yet.
is that madness? does anyone out there identify with this dilemma? what would you do?