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20 something clubbing

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AwwCrumpets · 07/08/2013 14:11

Not sure where to post this but here goes,
I'm going to Tenerife for a week with my dd 3yr and staying with family friends and il basically be on my own if not glued to my dd and I am considering going clubbing at least once while I'm there.

Would you go clubbing alone here or abroad?

Iv been there twice but never clubbing and have looked up the best club there so planned where I'd like to go.
Iv never even went clubbing on my own here in uk though it has crossed my mind as I have no friends and would still like to live my youth.

Dd will be fine being left with family friends as will have a few days to settle in before I plan to go out and I know they are fine with her and vice versa.

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ohcluttergotme · 08/08/2013 09:53

Could one of the family friends you are staying with not come too?
Don't think it would be much fun in your own & you would be quite vulnerable.
When you get home could you not join some clubs, going out groups to meet some new friends who are into same things as you? Smile

colditz · 08/08/2013 09:55

Don't take any drinks off anyone, dump your drink if you take your eye off it for a second, and obviously don't take any drugs. Have fun!

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AwwCrumpets · 08/08/2013 21:29

Thanks for the replies i have been meaning to get back all day to reply.
Family friends are retired so a bit old for the clubbing scene Grin
as for the dump the drinks tips I'm fairly sensiblei hopewhen it comes to drinking socially so think il probably drink even less on my own,
Only really interested on hitting the dance floorto make a fool of myself no doubt.
I would have to get the last bus back so before 12am and club doesn't open til 9pm,Don't fancy trying to get a taxi.

There's not really much out there for me To join I'v not got many interests and what I do have is a one man band hobby only.
I do volunteer a couple hours a week and my dd will be going to nursery soon so will probably join the gym maybe kickboxing classes or eventually find work.

I'm not overly lonely but don't want life to drift by and only ever be a mum and you kinda need some sort of social life to do that but that's why I want to go even on my own really take it when I can.,having a bf doesn't quite cut it either tho has it perks obviously Wink.

Again thanks for the replies much appreciated.

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AwwCrumpets · 08/08/2013 21:31

Strike through fail..testing 123
testing 123 Hmm

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gloucestergirl · 08/08/2013 21:36

Before getting married and having DD I used to go loads on my own as I moved towns a lot and never really wanted to hang out with just work mates. That is how I met my best friend and husband! I don't see anything wrong with it.

I used to enjoy going to pubs and reading a book while having a drink or maybe chatting some of the locals. Very different I admit to going clubbing. But the idea is the same, if you are friendly towards other people you should get chatting very soon. On holiday people are much more likely to include you in their gang so you should have some dancing partners Smile

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AwwCrumpets · 08/08/2013 22:03

Hi GG thanks for reply I have considered dropping into my local before,even tonight actually on my way to tesco.
there's lots of bars/restaurants around here to suit everyone.

Most of the time that I am child free not often it's been planned and doesn't leave room for random pub drop ins
Or isn't an appropriate time of day to even cross my mind Smile.
Could sneak off to pub while dd and bf are in bed though Wink.

I will need to do something for my own sanity I think,I know going out on your own is not considered normal I think for most people and why I posted is to re assured in a way that it is normal to do it.

Playgroups and things aren't really for me tbh I'm not great with other people kids and think it showsBlush
And play centres are just paying for a extra helping of stress and migraine on top of your day.
Though I have and do these things for dd.

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AwwCrumpets · 08/08/2013 22:11

And yes I am friendly and approachable,I don't bite.

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colditz · 09/08/2013 09:02

The advice to dump your drink was not about controlling your intake, it's about avoiding being spiked.

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AwwCrumpets · 09/08/2013 10:06

Hi, yes I meant I'd have my wits about me because I won't be drinking much and will dump a drink if I leave it for even a second and I don't take drugs either.

I'm a guzzler so a drink doesn't really get put down til it's finished.

If I bottle it and don't go clubbing il probably still go out to an american themed bar restaurant that's popular.

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