Hi everyone. Please be gentle this is something that is bothering me lots and my first WWYD.
Long story short, I have always had s rocky relationship with DHs family. I hate the way they treat my husband and me compared to his sister, BIL and two boys. They can do no wrong. I can't go into it all because this post would be so long. We have twin girls who barely get a look in, they pestered to babysit one after noon and within 2 hours ny MIL txt to say how unhappy the girls were, my fil makes comments about me being a sahm and often comments on our weight etc. They nagged at me to learn to drive and still speak to me like I am a little girl. I am a lot younger than dh,sil and bil. But its still no excuse.
My dh commented the other day that he was upset by all the pictures of his sister and bil/nephews in his mum and dads house. Our pics aren't really up and if we are it has his sister in it somewhere. So I encouraged him to speak to his mum. She fobbed him off saying that his sister had printed them for her.
I am looking after there plants at the mo as they are on holiday, went to do the house plants in their bedroom and they have 4 A4 professional photographs of his sister in their bedroom, they are in the spare room and all over the front room. I hadn't really noticed till now. Only 1 picture of our wedding but they are both on it!!! So I started thinking, the other week she showed me our wedding album of random pics they had. Well there were more of his sister than us on our wedding day :(!!!! And at the back were a few from our twins christening, all again involved his sister or the boys. Its giving me a complex, are we not as good some how.
I just don't get how a mother can be like this when she has two children. I couldn't have 4 pictures of one if my twins up and not the other? Its really upset my DH. And she knows he is upset, but hasn't done anything about it. I want to write her a letter just saying I think its best if me and the girl's don't see them again because its quite obvious we aren't as thought of as sil. And let my husband choose what he wants to do. They are so negative towards us and its really getting us down.
Please help, sorry its so long. Thankyou. Xxx
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Cut ties with MIL and PIL?
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Ilovemytwins · 30/07/2013 01:03
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