Insulting language being used at primary school

[FerrisBueller1972]

My ds (7) came home telling me all about the new boy that has started at his school in his class. The usual stuff like his name, what he looks like including a pierced ear, tram lines in hair. How he is very aggressive to others and generally back chatting in class. Ds does not want to be friends with him as he is forever in trouble.

Now all the physical description stuff is only because he has never seen a boy with an earring or tram lines so he was curious about it.

The issue I've got is that ds announced last night that this new boy called one of the girls in his class (who is black) a n*er. I can't even type it out. I'm so shocked at hearing it that I double checked and yep he did and another boy has also confirmed it. There are a few other comments that have been repeated back to me that are basically incredibly racist. I asked him if the teacher was aware of this and he says he thinks so.

How would you handle this with the school? I've spoken with ds regarding the language used and why it should never be used etc.

It's bothering me and do I ask the school to see if its being addressed?

TIA

Hi Ferris I would certainly log it with school before it gets any worse for both your son to have to listen to and for the poor little girl putting up with it.

I'd mention it, then it can be logged and monitored, and the child can be supported in understanding how this new school and community works and what is acceptable. he may be using racist language and appear very aggressive in his new school, but he's 7 and he can learn otherwise.
Preferably before the 6/7 week break.

Aggressive/backchatting and rude could well be an uncertain and worried child being defensive and trying to mark his place.
Clear guidelines and support from staff will help him with this too.

I had the same thoughts about him needing support and certainly needs addressing before the summer break.

Thanks for confirming my own thoughts!

I know that children aren't dogs, but think of it like a terrified beast dropped into a completely new place without any of his friends or familiar places.
He may turn out to be a sweetheart, but at first all you see is eyes and teeth and a lot of barking to establish a position.
I wonder how far he has moved, and why? What has happened to make him this at 7, and how can he be changed?

He has an older sister in a friends childs year. She has targeted him in apparently the same manner. From what I am told (not asked for any info it's freely bloody given at this school) he was expelled from previous primary. Whole family has moved schools in last 4 weeks of term.

Ds is home and is not happy. Other boy has been aggressive to him today and called him a girl because he didn't fight back. Ds won't, well, until he loses his patience and then he snaps! Had another chat about being understanding etc.

If this is what it's like when they are 7, what the hell is it going to be like when they are teenagers!

Where are you op? Because any remotely up to date, let alone progressive school should be over this like a rash. Parent teacher meetings assemblies, internal exclusions the works.
So either the school doesn't know or they're exceedingly shit!

It's a very good school in Cheshire.

I've raised concerns to the school. In the last hour I've heard from a friend that others have also made complaints/raised concerns.

The little girls mother has gone postal at them.

Really, really hope this gets sorted out and sharpish for all concerned.