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What would you say to dn?

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Loopylala7 · 28/06/2013 09:38

My dn turned 6 the other week, so I took a small gift round and a less exciting cheque (dn gets soo many gifts feel savings are sensible). Anyway when I gave him the gift, he opened it and instantly told me he didn't want it and when he was bored of it would give it away. I was quite gob smacked that a 6 year old would say this to an adult at all (is this normal 6 year old behaviour?) and just said 'that's not very nice'. Don't think db or sil heard, but they didn't correct him and I didn't want to create a scene at his party. I have previously bought more lavish gifts, but he's pretty much opened gift, put it down and walked off with a begrudging thank you forced by his parents. I get that he's 6, and also that he's not my child, but hate to think he's turning into a brat. I can't really say anything now about his behaviour as I realise its too late, but wondering what you would do in future situations? Do you tell db and Sil? Do you take it on yourself to tell dn off? What would you say to him? Db and sil are Wonderful parents, but due to unfortunate circumstances over the past year have gone a bit soft on dn which I'm worried is starting to backfire.

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babyhmummy01 · 28/06/2013 13:53

How well do you know him? could it be that his interests have changed? I always ring and ask if there is a present list as kids often ask for lots of things and my friends and family tend to keep note so that if people want to buy a gift they can get something the child will actually like.

After the event or not, I would mention it to DB and DSIL - if I was them I would be horrified that my child had been so rude and ungrateful!

Loopylala7 · 28/06/2013 14:40

I usually check that my gift idea fits with what he's into, but have to admit I didn't on this one, but did ask a primary school teacher friend if it was age appropriate and she said yes.

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sweetmelissa · 29/06/2013 02:24

That's exactly how my son with autism has reacted - many times. In his case because he can only tell the truth from his POV, and has no ability to see, or understand, the feelings of others. Thankfully those that know him, know this will be his reaction. And it does mean when he says he likes a gift he isn't just being polite.

But your nephew could just be rude.

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Loopylala7 · 29/06/2013 13:40

You've got me concerned now sweet, how would we know if he had autism? Is it something his school would pick up on? What signs would I need to look for?

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