leave DD asleep or wake her really early?

[mckenzie]

I'm tired so i'm being feeble about making this decision myself and need your help please.

DS going on away with school tomorrow and we need to leave here at 5am to drop him at meeting place.
Dh is away.
DD had a really late night last night (midnight late ) and consequently is shattered.

Do i wake her at the last minute and carry her to the car?
or
Do i leave her asleep with a note outside her bedroom door with my mobile number on it and telling her where I've gone in the unlikely event she wakes? She will know where I am anyway. She knows DS is going away tomorrow.

DD doesn't normally wake before 7/7.30 although as it was a very late night last night I would expect it to be later tomorrow.
I will only be 5 minutes away.
But..
she'll be home alone.

WWYD

How old is she?

How old is she?

Age is important here OP.

Wtf!?!

Is she old enough to read?

unless she is over 10 I would say you must take her. Any younger and she could easily be too disoriented to read a note, or just scared. And that's leaving aside all that could happen (such as you having a car accident and not being able to get back within a few minutes).

if she was up past 12 pm last night and can read she is probably old enough to be left alone with a note...

sorry. Stupidly forgot to say that she's 8. (Told you i was tired!)
Last night was a one off, she's normally in bed at 8.

I wouldn't leave my 8 yo alone she would freak out, carry her to the car.

No. 8's too young IMO.

carry to the car and WHY was she up until midnight?

Only you know whether she would be cool with this or not. These things happen - sometimes kids are up that late for whatever reason. It's YOU that needs to feel comfortable with it. I'd be surprised if you got any advice that didn't go along the lines of 'what would you do if the house burnt down while you were away....' on here.

It's difficult to know how to read your question LEM. Are you making conversation or being judgmental?

Take her of course!

Shame you didn't ask hours ago as I would have suggested you send her to a friend or relative for a sleepover so she could stay in bed getting the sleep she needs.

how long will you be gone?

I wouldn't leave her tbh

If a child is young enough that they can be carried to the car they are too young to be left at home alone!

My DD is 7 but nearly 8 and in those circumstances I wouldn't leave her. If she did wake (possibly as we left the house as I doubt we'd be silent) she would probably get very upset and I hate that to happen. She probably wouldn't wake bit on the off chance she did I wouldn't want her to be upset. She'd also probably want to say goodbye to DS.

If she was my DD and I thought she would be fine if she did wake up, I'd leave her. 8 is old enough to be left for 20 mins. Only you know how she'd react if she did wake up.

Incidentally, my friend did the same with her two this morning (boys - 7 & 9), her DH unexpectedly needed picking up & the boys were still asleep so she left a note for them if they woke up - they were still fast asleep when she got back but both said they'd be happy if she had to do it again and they woke up.

Hmm. That's right in the middle of yes and no for me.

8 is different for different kids

Would you nip to the corner shop and leave her in the house awake?

Agree that leaving a phone connected so you can hear if she gets up might make you feel better

What did you do?

I came up with plan C and asked another mum to stop by and collect my DS on her way with her own DS. He was so excited about the trip he was quite happy with this idea.

I'd not considered it before because I thought it wasn't fair on DS but he genuinely seemed like he couldn't care less how he got to the meeting point as long as he got there
Thanks for all your posts.

Glad you found another solution :) Has your DD woken up yet?