Hi all, I'm not sure in which section I should put this discussion but I thought here was the best bet.
My sister gave birth to my niece when she was 16 and when dn was 10 months old she dropped her at boyfriends mothers house and never returned for her, I was also a teenager and this obviously upset us all a great deal. She moved away to London and dn went to live with boyfriends lovely aunt just down the road. Now my sister has returned to the area and ds is 7 years old, myself and my dp found out on Monday that dn goes to the same school as my little boy, she walks past me everyday and doesn't know who I am. Unfortunately dn's dad is adamant I am to have nothing at all to do with my dn, well that is what he said after my sister dumped her and never returned. I'm not sure if maybe he thought I am the same (didn't have children back then) and that maybe I would disappear from dn's life too but that was 6 years ago and he has seen myself and partner almost every day for the last 5 years as we live on the next street. I would never in a million years leave my children, ever! What would you do, would you ask dn's father if it was ok to send birthday cards and gifts and maybe say hello to her when I see her? Bit nervous of doing this as dn's dad is very aggressive but it breaks my heart to walk past her now everyday. I also wanted to let him know that I won't forgive my sister for what she did (i think he thinks im on her side) yes she was young but there is no excuse for just leaving a child without her mother and starting a new life as if she doesn't exist. Hoping You mums will give me some advice on what to do. Thanks