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ChrissieTay · 03/06/2013 17:31

Smile Hi all!

Only my second post on here so far! Wink

But...I really need to rant and wondered whether any of you fellow mums had a bad experience with Netmums?!

I've been using it as my main parents board lately (sorry!) but as soon as you express an opinion on there, the Moderators seem to be picking and choosing who they wish to ban and I was one of them! I think it's ridiculous that they create a 'public' forum, yet constantly edit and delete threads and posts?!

Grrrrrr ... Any other Netmums to Mumsnet converts on here...?! Shock X

OP posts:
SirRaymondClench · 04/06/2013 07:58

Just because someone is a celebrity wouldn't make them upper class.
You can only be born or marry into the upper class. And even if you marry into them it wouldn't make you upper class anyway.

But why would the class you are make any difference to whether you post here?

SirRaymondClench · 04/06/2013 08:01

I guess I just didn't want to be on a forum where people are all yapping on about their 60k salaries and making me feel worthless & depressed !

I'm guessing then you wouldn't be hearing much from the upper class then anyway. Most of them are flat broke. It's a very common misconception that because someone is in the upper classes they are loaded. That tends to be middle classes that have money.
So now you've slagged off another forum, you're deciding who you want to communicate with here?
Lovely.

usualsuspect · 04/06/2013 08:04

I won't get out of bed for less than a fiver 10 grand

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BeerTricksPotter · 04/06/2013 08:05

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GoblinGranny · 04/06/2013 08:10

It's more the opportunity for high-level thinking that I find unusual about this site. There are a lot of interesting people who post and who are willing to debate all sorts of topics with intelligence, without resorting to a slagging-off fest.
Well, that also happens on occasion...Smile

Tee2072 · 04/06/2013 08:36

It's incredibly bad form to come to a forum just to slag off another forum.

There is no 'most of MN'. We are all different. There are hundreds of thousands of us, after all.

And we like to use strikethrough so we can call people cunts. Grin

elQuintoConyo · 04/06/2013 08:36

Haha, I'm lucky if I can pull in a grand a month and I'm not posh by anyone's standards despite parent's best efforts
I had never heard of NM before I joined up here, doesn't sound like my cup of lapsang suchong.

Ilikethebreeze · 04/06/2013 08:38

Ah. There are subjects even on her where you tread very carefully to the point of not posting about them at all.
Serious subjects to quickly learn to be careful about.
Conservative party,rape,disablism, benefit system.
Abortion is not often discussed on here, I have often wondered why.
And some serious subjects are actually discussed very well and calmly on the whole.
Racism, religion, amongst others.

Ilikethebreeze · 04/06/2013 08:39

The discussions about feminism are now a lot calmer on the whole too.

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ChrissieTay · 04/06/2013 09:02

Thank you Ilikethebreeze...

I guess I say this due to my experience of Netmums and inexperience with MN.

On there, the majority of posters would seem to feel 'put down' all the time, or like the world was against them due to lack of money, or jobs, being on benefits etc, and from what I've seen that doesn't happen a lot here. I just didn't want to come onto a forum, where people mock me or don't welcome me, because I am not in a high-flyer job!

I'm not offending anyone, so please don't jump to conclusions! There was enough of that of NM's !!

P.S. I don't see an issue with slagging off other sites, just as I will with Facebook - I HATE it!!

OP posts:
Trills · 04/06/2013 09:06

You're not making a lot of sense.

You say that the majority of NMs posters feel "put down" for lack of money etc - if they are the majority how can the forum be against them or not welcoming to them? They are the majority.

Pagwatch · 04/06/2013 09:10

Slagging off another site is not the same as slagging off Facebook.

And it is poor form because it just perpetuates the childish 'mn vs nm' bollocks which winds up some members of both sites.

You might be better served just spending sme time here before you try and form a judgement. I don't think 'the majority of posters feel put down', nor do people get slagged off over how much they earn not least because no one will have a clue how much you earn unless you post it. Nd even then most won't give a shit.

Just post and figure it out. It's different things to everyone.

Fairylea · 04/06/2013 09:13

I used to post on netmums a LOT about 3 years ago. Then it became all ridiculously moderated. And I can't stand it where their counsellor person or supposed health visitor comes along and literally regurgitates the original post ("so you say your dh has left you for someone from Jeremy Kyle, who happens to be your old second cousins uncle, and you're feeling sad about this.....") ...well duh that's what the original post said, we can all read if we're using a forum.... !

Oh and I'm riff raff :) and I'm still here :)

GoblinGranny · 04/06/2013 09:14

I know numerous people who are very posh and very broke.
OH being one of them.

Ilikethebreeze · 04/06/2013 09:15

The one thing I would say is have a look at the Talk Guidelines on here.
And there are a few that are not on there as well.
Naming names will get you into trouble with MNHQ.And stuff that may cause MN to be sued because of libel [dont understand all of this, someone else may be able to fill you in better]
Also, following someone across the boards will be severely frowned on.

MNHQ have relaxed a little on frowning on threads about threads [to the point of I dont know which they allow and which they dont {not a biggie for me as I dont do it}]

lottieandmia · 04/06/2013 09:17

Netmums is certainly more heavily moderated than MN. The SN board has a nice feel to it on Netmums, as it also does here so if I look at netmums it tends to be for that.

GoblinGranny · 04/06/2013 09:18

'I just didn't want to come onto a forum, where people mock me or don't welcome me, because I am not in a high-flyer job!'

There is a lot of mockery here, including against yourself. The key is to either join in or walk away, rather than flail and wail and feel paranoid that Someone Hates You.
Most of us realise that we're not that important in the scheme of things.

lottieandmia · 04/06/2013 09:20

'Aimed at the upper class' Hmm

Mumsnet is huge these days, absolutely loads and loads of registered users who come from all walks of life.

SanityClause · 04/06/2013 09:31

Slagging off Netmums on here has a feeling of bitching about someone behind their back.

Also, how can you know that you're not offending anyone? Perhaps saying you're not intending to offend may be better, followed by a swift apology if someone is offended? That sort of thing tends to go down better on MN (not to mention RL Wink).

Limelight · 04/06/2013 09:31

I have a massive castle

I don't

Welcome to MN! I'd probably not bother analysing the 'evilness' of NM, and whether we're all posh on MN, and just get dig in. If you don't like it here, you can always head back to NM and slag us off Wink.

Limelight · 04/06/2013 09:32

What just happened to my crossing out?

That should have said

I don't

Ilikethebreeze · 04/06/2013 09:38

I could be wrong, but I think the only board where being posh matters a bit is on threads about private education[I think there is a subtext of it there].
Style and Beauty can get a bit funny or odd allegedly, but I think I have only posted on there once so dont know exactly what it is like.

20122012 · 04/06/2013 09:47

Started off with netmums, but as of last night have converted to mumsnet. Agree re having to join local site and first name usage was not a fan. Much prefer this and prefer the discussions and opinions on here! It's only day 1 for me though, so will see how it goes....

Ilikethebreeze · 04/06/2013 09:50

Welcome to you too!

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 04/06/2013 09:55

Op I think you should name change, my spread sheet has you down as a shit stirrer already

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