It seems obvious to me that I should prioritise family over work. But I am still completely flummoxed emotionally by what to do in this situation:
My part-time job has been really stressful lately and I've done hundreds of hours of unpaid overtime.
DH's grandmother is unwell and lives hundreds of miles away. The only weekend DH and DH's Auntie could both make to visit his grandmother is one coming up in a few weeks. I made a big deal a few weeks ago saying we should definitely go and visit her that weekend (because it puts less pressure on grandma to 'entertain' us if Auntie is there) and that he should take the Friday off work so we can go for 3 days rather than 2. I checked my diary and there was nothing in it for the Friday. So DH booked it off work.
This week, 3 crucial work meetings have appeared for that Friday. Annoyingly, all three involve lots of people including senior managers so I can't ask for them to be changed. Also, two out of the three should have been in my diary before we booked the weekend trip, but I had been so stressed I had forgotten to put them in. The other one I actually said a couple of weeks ago that I was available for because I hadn't put the weekend trip in my calendar.
It's far enough away distance-wise that DH couldn't drive up on his own and the train is too expensive, so we can't go up separately.
Feel really stupid and don't know what to do. Work or family? Friendly advice anyone?