Ex partner introducing baby to new girlfriend

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Could I have some advice on this? My ex partner who I separated from in April last year entered into a new relationship in Oct last year and told me in the Nov. I have asked him not to introduce the baby (she has just turned one) to his new partner until they have been together a year. I've made this decision based more on the person he is than who she is. Am I being unreasonable? I will be applying the same restriction should I meet someone.

Yabu

You can't impose 'rules' on another adult

Er, you absolutely can impose rules on other adults. We do it all the time. No child seat? You can't take my baby in your car being an obvious example.

Im not sure it harms a baby's development to be introduced to new people.

Im also not sure you will be able to impose such rules unless your husband complies, but that would be voluntary on his part.

If the child was older eg age 6+ then they realise new faces popping in (and maybe out) of their lives, and know more about relationships, but you probably dont have anything to fear at 1 year old.

Also, tecnically, your ex, or you, could introduce new girlfriends/boyfriends once a year.

Well breaking rules have consequences.... What would they be here?

This man is an equal to op.... Is she gonna say 'well you can't have contact anymore if you don't do as I say' ??

Op... Sorry, yabu bit isn't relevant in this topic, my fault. What is his contact? Has it been through court?

Sorry but legally you can't stop him taking the baby where he likes when he has her (other than out of the country) you can't put restrictions on what he does where he goes or who he introduces her do. I tried to stop my kids seeing the woman my exH had an affair with. I was told that as long as he was capable of having contact then it was up to him.

Oh, greythorne give a better example? No car seat is breaking the law. This er, isn't!?

Er is it ok for him to tell you who can and cannot meet his child?

A year is quite extreme I think. Would he compromise on six months?

You cannot possibly say "what he is like" - has a habit of introducing women to your child? Your OP suggests not.

Is it ok for your ex to tell yoyo the same op?

You do

I think I can say what he is like.

He has voluntarily agreed to it, however he has also voluntarily agreed to not have his daughter overnight but 'probably' will do in a few months time. I wasn't given a reason and I also haven't asked. The agreement is also now being used as a stick to beat me with, i.e. If I don't start to be friendlier towards him then he can not see any reason why he should keep up the agreement? So if I don't do as he says or wants then I can forget that we both agreed on a year.

Sorry forgot to answer contact question. Wednesday tea time, Saturday daytime. No overnight (see above for why)