I need some advice on how to deal with my sister in law let me start from beginning of the shall we say friction?
Firstly we are young parents 19 and 21, we both have full time jobs and rent a house.
We left it until I was16 weeks pregnant to tell OH
'S family we were expecting as they are difficult people. When we told SIL she cried, she is 25, because she wanted the first grandchild, it was in her plan, we ruined her plan and we better not have a girl. Then for the nex,t day or 2 OH received texts saying we couldn't provide for our child, what were we going to do when its crying, what about when its sick, its not a toy can't put it in toy box, we should abort our baby. Followed by statuses on fb been up all night being sick am I only one with sense? We had done it wrong way not married don't own a house (like her)
Then when I had 20 week scan and told her it was a boy she sent just a smile back because it wasn'ta girl.
Through out my whole pregnancy she didn't want to know and when she would come over or be at family gatherings she didn't want to talk about baby or what we had got, how I was doing.
She expressed she hated the name we had chosen.
When I had our son she was all over him coming over a few times a week 1 month after the arrival of our son she gets pregnant and hardly ever comes to see her nephew because she is now pregnant before she would come over because we had something she wanted. now all it is about is her pregnancy and baby names and how big she is (she isnt) the way she is going on about sickness which wasn't as bad as she made out and general pregnancy complaints you would think she was about to drop not 23 weeks pregnant!
We found out sex of our baby so she didn't
I tried to bf but due to complications I was away from my son for hrs and tried to bf but he wouldn't latch on when he did would latch back off after a few sucks, it got to the point where I was having to have milk syringed off of my nipples to feed him. Mw even checked to see if he was capable of sucking. anyways she didn't want to bf found though/idea wrong and disgusting now she wants to bf
I have returned to work after 7 months mat leave she was going to have 10 months now has decided not going back to work despite fact she has Said husbands wage can't cover all bills etc
She makes eww, urgh noises or whats that disgusting/ nasty thing when my son has a dummy, he only has it when he needs it.
She says behind my back that I shouldn't feed my son this that and the other. He is 6mo and has fruit and veg purees!!!
She said she couldn't find mat clothes anywhere so I bought her some and then she could give me money for what she wanted and return what she didn't want to the shop. I also gave her some new grows for baby. She didn't even bother to say thanks
I bought some body shop cocoa butter body butter and shower cream for stretch marks and body shop peppermint spray for feet for Christmas, the look on her face said it all- not impressed.
I am at my wits end and can't take much more. I couldn't enjoy my pregnancy because of her, she makes uneeded comments about our parenting decisions etc
For other halfs sake I keep tight lipped as he hates confrontation but I have had.more than enough of her!
Any ideas on how I can approach/deal with this?