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Unwanted Christmas presents

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 20:45

If someone you didn't like and who didn't like you (they have specifically said they do not like you) bought you a Christmas present, WWYD?
Return unopened?
Open and keep?
Other?
The person in question is family and there is a long background of never getting on.
Oh and you definately didn't want a present from them!

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 20:45

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McPheastOfStephen · 27/12/2012 20:46

Charity shop

At least someone will benefit from it. Unless it's sparkly, and then I will be happy to relieve you of your burden.

ELR · 27/12/2012 20:48

Open it. If its nice keep it, if its rubbish charity shop it. Don't worry about how or why you got it, life's too short. I would not give a gift back though, unless you wanted to.

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 20:50

It's bad of me I know but on principle I just dont want it!! I can't even touch it to open it. I did have thoughts of ebaying it still wrapped Grin.
It's sitting there looking at me right now. I have such rage at the giver that I feel not accepting it is not enough? IYSWIM

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Acandlelitshadow · 27/12/2012 20:52

Open it and keep it if it's nice . If it's grim or you think you won't be able to stomach using it donate or sell.

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 20:53

Would no one ever return a gift?

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MerylStrop · 27/12/2012 20:54

I'd give it back, unless it's going to cause an almighty row that you CBA with. If not, open it and charity shop it

MNPdoesYULETIDE · 27/12/2012 20:54

Gift it to them/her next year.

Tommy · 27/12/2012 20:56

I wouldn't return it - unwrap it and then give it to charity.
If you returned it, then the feud will still be going on....

Acandlelitshadow · 27/12/2012 20:59

Hmmm. I returned dosh from MIL down to a truly toxic and still unresolved fallout. We've all but cut contact now but if she did send anything, it'd absolutely go back.

She's not someone I have to face though. If it's someone you have to have contact with is it worth the aggro?

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 21:05

Acandle is suspect yours is a similar reason for returning to mine.
Toxic isn't enough to describe them!
I want to return with a note stating 'if I'm not welcome as part of the family please do not send gifts' but that doesn't quite sound right?
I don't want them thinking they can act like everything's normal when it's not.
Please note- this isn't me trying to be awkward, we have literally begged to try and sort things out, they refused and want 'nothing to do with us' and now this? HmmConfused

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JustFabulous · 27/12/2012 21:08

Maybe they have had a change of heart about sorting things out..

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 21:10

Justfab, no I'm afraid not. Was told on Christmas day nothing's changed. They've basically done it so no one can say 'and they didn't even get aiming a present'.

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McPheastOfStephen · 27/12/2012 21:16

Put gloves on and open it.

Curiosity is almost choking me Blush

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 27/12/2012 21:19

I would send it back. With note saying you have made your feelings very clear, I think sending me a gift after that is hypocritical and inappropriate. Rest assured I am not unhappy with your decision to have nothing to do with me and suggest you extend this to not sending gifts.

Viviennemary · 27/12/2012 21:20

I wouldn't return it. It's just not done. But I'd probably moan and whine and go on about it. If it's awful wait a respectable amount of time and then donate it to charity.

BonkeyMollocks · 27/12/2012 21:22

Marking place to find out what it is Blush

Open it! Open it! Open it! Grin

garlicbaubles · 27/12/2012 21:22

Am I very, very bad for wanting you to open it, even if you have to use tongs behind a screen to do it?

Yes, I am Xmas Blush

tribpot · 27/12/2012 21:23

You clearly want them to know they should stop sending gifts. How did you end up in possession of this one? Was it sent through the post?

Returning it perpetuates the feud but not returning it may give the impression they have 'won'. Overall I would give the thing away (unseen if you want, in one of those charity bins they have in supermarket car parks and the like?) and make sure it is not possible to send you a gift next year.

mellowcat · 27/12/2012 21:24

I wouldn't return it either, life's too short. Send it to a charity shop and banish it and the sender from your mind.

BonkeyMollocks · 27/12/2012 21:24

Ok, if your going to send it back....can you at least very carefully peel back a corner and peek??

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aimingtobeaperfectionist · 27/12/2012 21:25

HEC I am stealing that message and writing it on the note! Thanking you.
I am not opening it not even a tiny corner just to see
Last year I got a bottle of obviously from a jumble/car boot sale Mariah Carey perfume in a tatty ripped box.
Year before was a pair of slippers.
I'm not holding my breath.

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garlicbaubles · 27/12/2012 21:25

xpost, Bonkey Grin

... open it ... open it ...

garlicbaubles · 27/12/2012 21:27

Oh Xmas Sad

I respect your wisdom, natch, I'm just tired of watching Prison Break and trying to live vicariously Blush

LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas · 27/12/2012 21:31

If you feel that strongly then return it.

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