Seen perfect job for ex who has apparently just lost his - to tell him or not?

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Ex is either trying to avoid CSA or has actually lost his job. Hard to tell as he lies rather a lot and has been trying to avoid CSA since June.

I have just seen a friend on FB advertising for EXACTLY his type of niche media job, with only one interested party so far...

Last message from ex was to stay out of his life (despite him being the one messaging me about loosing his job). I really am happy to do this, but him not paying us CSA because of loosing his job will really affect DD and I.
I don't want to stir anything up, but if I just link to this job and nothing else in and email, is that....acceptable?

I hate the fact I feel I still need to help him on these things.
But I hate the fact he will merrily sit on his arse and blame me for not working more.

Help!

No don't. It's not your job to do it and if he wants to find a job, he'll find one. It's not your job to run around after him, and the fact he's told you to stay out of his life - it won't go down well.

If you were going to do anything you could perhaps mention to the friend that you know someone who might be interested and pass on ex's contact details, but I wouldn't even do that TBH.

Yes, I have a feeling it will backfire on me somehow. Most things involving him tend to!

Any mutual friends that you could mention it to?

Leave well alone - as soon as you show him the job it will put the don't touch it as ex sent it on it, so no point anyway.

Of course you could ask friend on facebook to head head your ex -but make sure you know nothing and don't email it must be a verbal approcach to facebook friend

Only one really that we are still both 'friends' with, so I could message her it, but she is abroad as a film she produced is out this week So not sure she will really be bothered to forward it at all! Not sure I would in her position!

No I wouldn't do that.
I'd only do it if there was a way of casually mentioning it.

OK, will leave it. Can't think of a way of doing it without sending it directly and agree it will be binned immediately if it comes from me. Thanks guys.