Hi I have a 4 week old baby boy & am a first time mum. We live in a big city & my husband travels 1.5 hours each way to get to work every day which is near a tiny little village. Due to the commute & him being out of the house 12 hours a day he wants us to move over & rent a house close to his work so he doesn't have to do the journey everyday & can see more of our son (&me apparently!). His work is due to be moved back to the city in a year's time so we'd move back into our home after a year. My husband has suffered from bad depression in the past & is affected by the bad weather in winter.
My worry is that I will miss the ease & opportunities of living in a city & making new mum friends & if I move over that I make friends there than have to start over again when we move back which is disruptive for me & baby boy. I also worry about spending the next month packing & not enjoying spending time getting to know my baby. My husband has given me very little time to make a decision & is leaving it up to me to make the final decision to move (I looked at houses when the baby was 2 weeks old & still recovering from stitches) & says he is fed up of waiting for me to decide but I feel it's a big thing to decide about especially on 3 hours sleep a night with a baby who has colic so get no time to myself.
My family live away & my husband says he'd be a better support as he wouldn't be out of the house for so many hours a day but I feel the move benefits him more than me...
What would you do?
Thanks x