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2 daughters, 2 events, same day. WWYD?

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nickeldaisical · 12/10/2012 13:28

not my daughters.

DD1 aged 20, has cheerleading competition on a sunday. it's several miles away from home. she's the lead cheerleader and will need to take one of the other squad members too.
DD2 aged 15, has a performance that is the conclusion of a Guide badge. she has to do the performance to get the badge. she's part of a group, not a solo. it's within walking distance of home. it's on the same day.

Only one family car. don't know if mum drives.
mum and dad both available on the day.

WWYD?

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lambethlil · 12/10/2012 13:30

One parent to each event. Confused

JammySplodger · 12/10/2012 13:31

I'd go and see the cheerleader and send grandparents to see the guide performance.

CMOTDibbler · 12/10/2012 13:31

Easy - one drives to dd1s event, the other goes to dd2's.

Whats the backstory ?

JammySplodger · 12/10/2012 13:32

Sorry, misread that, err, I'd flip a coin.

SkiLift · 12/10/2012 13:32

one walks, one drives.

or both go to both and watch a bit of each.

EmpressOfTheSevenScreams · 12/10/2012 13:33

One parent drives DD1 and friend in car, other parent (if they're able to watch the performance, seems unnecessary otherwise) walks with DD2.

Seems too simple. I could understand you posting the question if the DD's were 10 and 5 and both needed to be driven. What's the catch?

MrClaypole · 12/10/2012 13:35

This is really not a difficult question is it?

One parent goes to each event. One takes the car and one walks or gets a cab.

Then have a nice dinner out or takeaway in the evening to tell each other about it all.

What's the problem?

coppertop · 12/10/2012 13:37

Is this one of those reverse posts? Is your child the other squad member by any chance?

Otherwise I would say one parent goes to each event.

PrimrosePath · 12/10/2012 13:37

I'm not sure what this problem is here. Do both parents want to see both events?

EmpressOfTheSevenScreams · 12/10/2012 13:38

Come on Nickel - what IS the problem?

lambethlil · 12/10/2012 13:41

Tell us Nickel!

Trills · 12/10/2012 13:42

If one parent doesn't drive, non-driver goes to walking-distance thing, driver goes to driving-requiring thing.

If both drive, flip a coin or decide if one has been more involved in one of the events.

TheMightyRubester · 12/10/2012 13:42

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Trills · 12/10/2012 13:42

Or alternatively, 20 yr old drives herself, 15 yr old walks herself, parents stay hoe and have sex.

EmpressOfTheSevenScreams · 12/10/2012 13:42

Nickel's child's too young to be the other squad member, Coppertop.

PhyllisDoris · 12/10/2012 13:44

yes, tell us! Agree with everything said above. One parent to each event, and you will all enjoy swapping stories in the evening.
One event is within walking distance, so the other event needs the car.

Flip a coin if you need to to decide who goes to which.

What's the problem?

coppertop · 12/10/2012 13:45

My money's on Nickel's dc being the other cheerleading squad member. The 20yr-old is supposed to take them but now can't because her parents are driving to the 15yr-old's performance?

IShallWearMidnight · 12/10/2012 13:45

one parent to each, decide amongst selves which one goes where, unless one parent is non driver, in which case they go to the walking distance one. Not difficult to sort out I'd've said, unless there's more to it?

OwedToAutumn · 12/10/2012 13:51

I have 3 DC all at different schools. They all Have a number of hobbies and sports over and above this. It's not unusual for DH and me to have to each attend one event. We explain beforehand, and our DC understand the difficulty. It's just a normal part of belonging to a family.

nickeldaisical · 12/10/2012 14:32

This happened last year, and I was wondering whether I was BU because I was in charge of the Guides event. (I've been pondering it ever since because it seemed so unfair)

So I thought I was biased because it was my event. iyswim.

What happened was, (and I even spoke to the dad about this because I felt it was unfair) - DD2, the Guide was made to miss her performance so that the whole family could go to the cheerleading competition for the DD1.
she was given no choice, and when I spoke to the dad he said that it was the family supporting the family (i paraphrase)

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Trills · 12/10/2012 14:34

WTF?

Bonkers.

EmpressOfTheSevenScreams · 12/10/2012 14:36

Massively unfair.

nickeldaisical · 12/10/2012 14:36

I know.
and she was the most enthusiastic guide taking part, and it was important to her.
I had to have words with the Guide leaders to make sure that she still got her badge - she was the only guide that didn't miss a single rehearsal.

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Felicitywascold · 12/10/2012 14:37

Yanbu, the family are odd and it's shit that the child was made to miss the performance.

But seriously, a year ago? Time to move on....

nickeldaisical · 12/10/2012 14:37

sorry Felicity - i haven't been thinking about it constantly! Grin

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