Ive recently been in touch with an old school friend who shared, with myself and a couple of other friends, that she'd been quite seriously sexually abused by one of our teachers at boarding school in the early 80's. She was 14 or so. She's never told anyone until now.
There had always been rumours about this particular teacher, one being of another girl having been through the same scenario exactly as my friend. At the time, it somehow didn't seem too outrageous. I'm not sure why. I think maybe, at that age, you don't see yourselves as children or vulnerable. Anyway, after a quick Google, it seems that this teacher has been working in education/ youth projects all his working life. It looks as if he may have retired fairly recently. It makes me sick to think that, in all probability, this was not an isolated case.
My friend now lives overseas but wants to do something about the situation. She's not sure if she wants to just tell him how much he affected the rest of her life or to actually report him. I'd like to help her and my first instinct is to try to find other students who had the same experience but .... Is this fair on others? I don't care about him but is it better to let sleeping dogs lie in the case of his other (probable) victims, who may have put it to rest. I don't want to rush in, all guns blazing and re-ignite the horrible memory of that loathsome man.
What would you do?