Advise really needed before I go mad ;) re a move

[Mum2One7Y]

Hi Ladies!

I am confuddled and need to make a decision either way.

At the moment we are living in a rough part of South Wales, only my husband works, although I have an interview in a few hours(!) as despite me having a degree and decent CV the jobs are thin on the ground and I have been temping for a while.

I am originally from Somerset, although moved when I was 7.

A house has come up for rent down there, our PERFECT home, affordable, much much better education and village values for our little girl and hopefully a better life for the 3 of us. I applied for jobs, had 3 interviews in a day and was offered all 3 jobs (that has never happened here!) not well paid jobs but still with 2 wages we could manage.

The problem...we would have to move within a month to get the house, this means DH will have to get a job when he is down there. We have enough money for dep and 1st months rent and thats it! My wage would keep us going but wouldnt be enough to cover everything if DH couldnt get a job. But as I got offers so quickly I am hopeful. But as I say, it means going down on a wing and a prayer and hoping for the best. We have thought about saving, that is the sensible option, but we want this house and to move before DD gets too much older (shes 7 already)

Jump and hope for the best?
Stay and be a sensible adult and save?
Give up and redecorate my living room and just stay here?

Please please advise, just for some perspective!

xx

Hmm. I'd jump and hope for the best!
:)
It sounds like this could be your opportunity and it'd be a shame to miss it.

Thank you HiHow, thats exactly how I feel. It could be a better life for the 3 of us and thats what everyone wants isnt it?

On the other hand if we fail we are completely fudged! What could go wrong right!!

Gonna start selling our crap today. Figure we wont need it anymore :D

Oh Lordy, the sweats are back.....!

x

Any chance you could make the move, and dh carry on working in s wales until he gets a job in Somerset? Could he rent a room cheaply enough that he could stay there during Yeh week and come home to you at weekends?

As a complete aside, I tried Netmums and in case any of you haven't tried it this place is much friendlier!

We did consider doing that as DH could stay with his Mum in the meantime but we didn't think it would work because I would then be without a car (we car share at the moment as we used to work relatively close to each other and since I finished temp job we couldnt afford 2nd car) which would mean being on my own down there with DD trying to settle her into school and sort childcare and use the rural transport. I dont think it would work too well.
Also, the problem DH is finding with the job hunting is they seem to want him in interviews mon to fri. His current job wouldn't be too flexible with that at all (understandably I guess!) This is mainly the reason he hasn't secured work down there at the moment I think.

I want to jump, I really do but I am frightened of:
*Failing to get jobs and so not being able to run a home
*Having to come home and admit defeat- we would be homeless and jobless saying that so I don't know who we would admit defeat to lol
*DH not settling and not liking it there, She loved it when we went on a trip down but is digging her heels about moving. Thats natural obviously but how can I tell her its ok if I am unsure? I just want the best for her, I think it would be the best IF we can pull it off!
*I am just scared

But it has ALWAYS been my major mission to get back there, so close and yet so fudging far :(

Then I look at the amount of Polish and Portuguese around here and think 'If they can make it so far from home and get on with it surely we can?!'

Thanks ladies, even knowing there is someone listening helps loads :D

xx

By the way I meant DD not settling, not DH. He would be happy anywhere he can play golf!

With regards to the car, if DH stayed and you went, you would be able to afford a cheap second hand car since you would have two wages?

Most interviews are done during office hours, that is to be expected. No-one should have to give up the job they have currently in order to interview for a new job. DH's current employers may not like him taking a full day off for an interview, but they should allow it. Try posting in legal for what the law says on not allowing time off for interviews (I'm sure it must not be legal!).

Your fears are natural, but it sounds as though you really want this. You say you have been offered jobs there. Have you accepted any of them yet? You need to know that you have a job, then there is no worry over needing to come home.

DD will adjust whatever you choose. She is too young to be part of the decision-making process, to be honest, and if it were me, I wouldn't be asking her opinion, I'd be making my own mind up with DH and then telling her what was going to happen. Her input should be about what colour her new bedroom should be, and which old toys she is deciding not to take with her!