Estranged sister

[sistertroubles]

Hi there,
I had my post removed in the end as there was too much identifiable, but just wanted to say thanks to those that replied on it

Ah, good luck with it all.

Thanks Elsqueak

I'm going to keep my distance, and it was good to hear from posters that it seemed like the right thing to do. I'm going to keep up contact with my future niece/nephew by writing etc. so that I won't be a stranger to them. I think it's the best I can do in a bad situation. There will be no shortage of cards, postcards, christmas, birthday presents etc., but it's frequent direct contact while niece/nephew is very young that I won't be able to manage.

I remember one poster on the deleted thread said could this behaviour be due to the fact she is pregnant and scared, but I can hand-on-heart say this behaviour is par for the course, and has been going on for many years. I feel sad for her actually as I think she is an unhappy person, but too many years have gone by now for us and all attempts to reform a bond between us have failed. I know she has friends who will support her on a more practical level, as well as family members, which makes my decision a bit easier.

I spoke to mum and stepmum about this today and they are 100% supportive of my decision and my reasons, it makes a big difference for me that the family understands, a big relief!

Am sorry you've had such a hard time of it. That's great you've got support going forward and can enjoy that relief!