Should I visit my dad in hospital

[gastonthebabyshusher]

Hi, my dad is in hospital but doesn't want me visit. I live a couple of hundred miles away, 1 baby, 1 full time job, trying to sell a flat so have planned viewings, and he doesn't want me to stretch myself too thin, however his medical history is such that this could be serious. He has had many occasions of pancreatitis.
He won't give me any details, tells me he's having tests but says he hasn't had any results (4 days since admitted) the nursing staff tell me they "can't say much on the phone" and give me no answers.
I am at my wits end!
I don't want my needs to override his and go hurtling up there only to upset him as it is his wish that I don't go.
I am an only child and my parents are seperated so feel massively responsible (he has siblings in the area that are visiting daily)
What should I do?

Visit him.

Can you speak to his siblings to get some more answers before you visit? Maybe they could tell you more than the nurses then you could decide how urgently you need to get there.

That's another problem, they are all giving me different accounts.

He has a history of trying to hide bad news from me (protecting me) so when he told me he was unwell and in the hospital I though this a massive step forward, and didn't want to over react for fear of pushing him back to hiding stuff.

Now I'm just fretting that I aren't doing anything!

Oh no I thought they might give you a better account of what's happened. I really don't know what to suggest its a hard decision for you. Maybe trust you gut instinct?

I would go.

Thanks tired. I think I need to go. Now just need to organise everything. I don't feel able to drive after a week of no sleep and anxiety. Thanks for listening.

I would go. He is trying to protect you by telling you not to go. But it isnt protecting you is it? It is causing you upset and confusion.

How would you feel if the outcome of this hospital stay is not good? Go. He will not be annoyed, he loves you. You are his baby.

Good luck. Hope you get some sleep now you've made you mind up. Hugs.

Visit

Visit him. I don't think you'll regret it whatever the outcome X

You are making the right decision, even if it is minor you will feel better for going, also you are the best medicine for himand will help him to get better.

Thank you all. I can't go till sat morning but now I've made my decision I feel a little less tortured. Xxx

Yes, do go it will be best for both of you.

I agree, I would also visit. X

I agree, I would visit. He may say not to, but I bet he'll be really pleased. Plus, you'll hopefully find out more info.
Hope he's ok.