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Ex friend situation

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JackJacksmummy · 03/08/2012 11:36

I have this friend from school, known her since I was 14, we left school and I moved and lost contact until 3 years later when I wrote to her parents house and we met up and found we'd both had a child and were great friends again.

Then 4 years later I started to distance myself because to be honest and I regret it now, her children were awful, they'd come round my house break toys and kick my doors and furniture, swear at me and kick their mother.
We lost contact again til 2007 when we met up and made up. All was fine or so I thought!!

In 2009 I hadn't heard from her in a few weeks and knew she was due to have her baby any day so texted her and received several nasty replies saying not to contact her ever again. I still to this day have absolutely no idea why. I never made it known what I thought if her kids and their behaviour was not really an issue to me at that point - I honestly cannot pin point what went wrong. Only that her DH did not like her having friends and was pretty nasty to her so I came to the conclusion it may have been him sending the messages.

Still, I sent cards for birthdays and whatever but we moved again so she has no idea where I live.

Her son and my daughter are now FB friends 12&13 years old and they have been chatting and want to meet up. That's fine, his mum was my daughters "god-mother" and they pretty much grew up together so if that's what they want to do I wouldn't stop them.

In one of his messages he says his mum would like to see us all, which I'm totally unsure of. I miss her terribly, when we were friends we were the best of friends and no one has ever come close and not have Iet anyone either so deep down I do want to see her but I don't want to be hurt again, and I don't particularly want to meet her DH again. - thats if they are still together??

My daughter had passed on my mobile number for her to text if she wants but maybe I shouldn't have even let her do that.

I don't know what to do, wwyd??

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Rockchick1984 · 03/08/2012 20:00

I'd text her, what's the worst that can happen?

JackJacksmummy · 03/08/2012 22:28

I didn't have her number, but she texted me and briefly explain it was her DH, they are still together but only because he is threatening to take the children. She's not allowed any friends do its not just me and it was him who was sending the texts.

We are going to arrange to meet in secret and she says she will explain everything.

I believe her because I know what a twat he was back then - I even offered her a bed one night after he'd hit her.

I just hope this doesn't backfire and get her into more trouble but it sounds like she is getting brave by making this move. Turns out it wasn't her boy messaging my dd in FB but her.

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Rockchick1984 · 03/08/2012 22:44

I hope it all goes well for you both, sounds like she could really use a good friend :)

caramelwaffle · 04/08/2012 11:51

Good luck with everything. Hope it goes well for both of you.

JackJacksmummy · 06/08/2012 22:20

Thank you :)

We met up for the first time in over 3 years on Saturday and there were lots of tears and hugs but it was fantastic.
I missed my friend soooo much.

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RandomMess · 06/08/2012 22:24

Hope it continues to go well and you can help her move on with her life with out her "h"

caramelwaffle · 07/08/2012 01:15

Sounds as if you had a nice time, and you still have a great connection. Once again, good luck to the both of you.

VolAuVent · 10/08/2012 22:36

Glad it went well. Hopefully you can now rebuild your good friendship :)

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