Supporting your partner

[TheMagicMan]

My first post, so please be kind.......

My partner has just cast up to me that I "never" support her in arguments/discussions with our 15 year old daughter whenever they are arguing (this isn't a constant thing, normal parent/teenager stuff n- clothes, bed-time, eating etc). However, on the occasions where I've interceded to support her, she then tells me off for not letting her deal with it, thereby under-mining her ability and authority.

I feel I just can't do the right thing either way.

Pointers and suggestions most welcome!

Talk to her when you are both calm and you DD isn't there and work out a joint policy- and both stick to it.

Hmm...does she actually mean 'support', or 'agree with'? I know someone who says the former but means the latter, which is not on, in my book.

Anyway. You should present a united front, so you need to both be open to saying "we'll discuss this with each other later and get back to you, DD."