I am a single mother to a 6 and a half year old boy. Myself and his father split up pretty much when i found out i was pregnant and his father didnt want to know until i was about 7 months pregnant and he slowly came round to the idea that we were having a baby. After my son was born he stuck around for 2 years mainly doing his 'duty' as a father albeit pushed by myself. Anyway after 2 years he decided that he didnt want anything more to do with me or my son and walked out of our lives. It's been 4 and half years since we saw him last and i had to start claiming money via the CSA as he started playing silly buggers with the payments he used to give me for our son. anyway about a year ago i found out via the CSA that he had gone and had another child as my payments went down and the letter from the CSA stated that his payments were to be split between 2 children so i worked it out.
It hasnt bugged me until recently but i would really like to find out information about my son's half sibling but have no idea how to go about it? I'm concious that one day i'm going to have to sit my son down and say that he has a sibling out there but dont want to confuse him by not having any information on them.
Me and his father have mutual friends that we know and i managed to find out that it was a girl who was born around 2008/2009 but thats all the information i know. I really would like to find out more about them for my son's sake and if possible for them to have some kind of relationship regardless if his father is around or not. I heard that he doesnt have anything to do with the other child either but this is all hear say at the moment and really want to know a way i can go about accessing that information. If anyone has any ideas i would greatley appreciate them as i dont want my son growing up and finding out another way and knowing i had this information and didnt tell him.