Mil taking the piss?

[Needstotidyup]

I need some neutral advice. Dh and I are of on a spa weekend this week. However mil is refusing to have our daughter for the night. Daughter is 9 months sleeps through and very happy child. Mil is 50 well not working on weekend just doesn't like helping with kids which is why I would never Normally ask. It is our 10th anniversary and in 10yrs we have only been away 4 times without kids (my mum always has them).
Anyway we r now taking baby with us so can't do any spa treatments romantic meals etc fair enough our child our responsibility.
The wwyd is mil is off to a spa next week (50th bday present), she is assuming that I will go round to care for dh gran who lives with her, this would involve looking after her from 4pm -9pm making supper getting her dressed for bed and going round the next morning to feed her, administer meds and see her off to day centre 730-930 am
She hasn't asked me to look after gran she just knows I will if she's not around to do it, would you bite your tongue and do it so she has a nice mini break or would you kick up a fuss as she didn't giv a shit bout me and my break?

You should start saying no, apart from it being completely unfair on you ,you have your baby to think about too. If you keep going along with it it will keep happening, you need to be more assertive so that in the future you mil has to ask you nicely when she wants your help, that is not too much to ask

Dh should have planned childcare first but he assumed his mum would do it as I run around after her. He should say no to her agreed but he says he doesn't want to cause any drama so he just let's her have her way. If I do put my foot down I know he would I hope he would support me. He knows his family are a bit crap so he tries to make it up to me in other ways like nice family holiday gym membership for me and kids, sometimes he offers to say something but I say leave it as its too much hassle.
I have got kids pyjamas etc together and I will feed them bath them at mils house seeing as I'm stuck there til 9pm.

needs I take some of my post back. Clearly giving you (and indirectly at that) a couple of hours notice is totally unacceptable, and just plain rude, unless she's really in a desperate pickle and it doesn't sound like she is.