To get the long story short: friend has 4 daughters with exP. She recently left him 9 months ago due to abuse against the children & her after 11 years together. She's tried before to leave but had no hope. 2 of the girls go on overnight visits to dad due to a court order from Friday - Monday morning. The 3rd daughter doesn't go anymore due to health reasons to do with result of going to her dads. She's 2.
The other 2 daughters are 8 & 5. 8 year old has started opening up to not just her mum but me aswell about the abuse she endures & that she sees of her 5yo sister. Social services have been aware from day 1 & have suggested that in fact friend is the one with the issues because she takes her daughters to the doctors when they complain of pain in their privates after visits. It's been proven by doctors that entry to the vagina has happened. 8yo has resorted to writing it all down & giving it to headteacher at school. 5yo accepts the abuse as a good thing & has started getting very violent with family at home to the point where she tried to strangle her 2yo sister. She laughs & smiles about it. Cafcass have arranged a appointment but haven't been so helpful. To top it off the dad is taking friendto court for full custody. I've tried everything, I've done statements of what the girls have told me I've recorded what they're like in my care, what they're like when I'm at their house, I've researched what I know of from working in childcare & now I'm at an end. The evidence is there in front of me but no one seems to be taking a blind bit of notice. The school haven't risen any concern at all yet they see the 8yo do some writing at school. What can I do? She could loose all 3 kids to a sexually & physically abusive man & his family are no better either. On one occasion 8yo came back with red marks on her legs & inside her thigh, when asked where they came from she said grandad pushed me down to the floor.
Why won't anyone listen? Why is it that my friend is stuck? She's constantly is on the phone begging people for help. How I can help her?