To move or to stay; we can't decide?

[IWanders]

Ok my dh has changed jobs this year he has a 3 hour commute each week too and from work and has taken a salary cut to get a UK based job, he currently works 4 days a week and is home 3 days. But the job is only available for 2 years and then he goes abroad again.

So we either move where dh is now working which means moving the dc to new schools and nurseries, but on the plus side we will have a more money as the rent will be subsidised by his work and our out goings will be more in line with his new salary but we will be in a whole new area which my dh keeps saying isn't a great area compared to where we live now.

Or we stay where we are dc stay with friends and stay in lovely schools, I stay near my family and friends and we struggle juggling the new salary and have less days out and spare money.

I feel we should move and in 2 years re-jig things again if needed, this means although we loose the lovely friends and great schools we keep a financial safety net around us. The only tug is dh does not want to move declaring we will manage and we have lived here 8 years and are a bit attached.

Sorry this is long but we keeping going round in circles with the pros and cons so wwyd?

As the job is only temporary I would stay where I personally had support network.

The children may resent all the upheaval now if they have to go through it again in 2 years.

Is there anyway you can cut down your spending now or ask his company for assistance with travel?

Can he get assistance to rent a room near where he works 4 nights per week? How much does the travel cost versus a room in lodgings or shared house?

dh gets accommodation for free in a very small flat which he is happy with and we have cut back but its tight, he also gets travel expenses.
We just thought being there would be better for the family and be good to make savings in case he decides to change jobs in 2 years as dh misses the dc so much when abroad. Also we thought it might help with the car as the tyres and things need replacing loads with all the mileage.
But then like you mention there's the support network and dc to think about. Round and round me and dh have been going with this debate. I just want a crystal ball.

the cost of moving is usually large and hidden / unplannable. Even with work funded moves. I've moved community, schools etc twice in the last year and found it very difficult.