To wine or whine at the dinner table

[Bachelormum]

After a long day, whether at the office or home, there is nothing more satisfying than a nice glass of wine to quaff while I'm cooking. It's my Nora Jones life is good moment.

I generally finish this same glass with dinner as in reality my nora jones moment lasts about 10 seconds and then it's juggling the pasta, bath time, etc ... That is until recently me daughter asked if she could have her orange juice in a wine glass.

I grabbed a wine glass without too much thought, poured in the juice and did a doubletake. It felt "wrong". I poured it into a normal glass and sat there over dinner wondering what kind of example I was setting.

Imstarted thinking about how she has probably learnt by association how to drink wine before she cld even say the alphabet!

I've since started drinking juice with dinner the majority of evenings as I want to try and detox her mind so that her memory of me isn't with a glass at the table (and so now its me who whines).

Has anybody else thought much about it?

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I think that if you are having just one glass of wine an evening then you are modelling responsible drinking.

I don't think seeing you with a glass of wine with dinner will have done her the slightest bit of harm. If she learns anything it would be that wine is a pleasant drink that goes well with dinner, as does juice, squash or any other drink. If you were getting blotto every night, and passing out in your dinner I would be more concerned! Have your wine and enjoy it!

I think a glass of wine every day is a lot.

Also it's a bit sad if you need wine to relax and sort your child out every day - it becomes a crutch.

I say this as a mum of two under 3 and as the daughter of an alcoholic. Bit extreme but mum used to have just one glass of an evening, that's how it started.

my dd in her last summer at nursery used to cut mimic cutting lemons up for G&T, she would dish out the drinks in tea cups and then go around and ask the nursery ladies if they wanted lemon in thier gin and twonic

I dont think you are doing your your dd any harm. a glass a dfay is not too much I dont think, maybe over your weekly safe drinking I have no idea. not sure what my justifaction for doing so is, but I tend not to drink untill dd is in bed.

I would (and do) save wine for the weekends. Still just a glass with dinner, but I think it's too easy to get into a bad habit otherwise. Safe drinking includes having several alcohol-free days each week so I think you're doing the right thing.

When we were having a glass every night it used to be after the DCs were in bed. Thanks to belt-tightening we now don't drink every evening but I still prefer not to drink in front of them when we do have some at weekends. Enough time for wine with dinner/modelling responsible drinking when they're teenagers.

What everyone else said.

Out of interest, is it normal to advertise your blog when you post? I thought it was somehow frowned upon? Genuine q - I haven't seen it before and have no idea of every one of this op's posts (of which I have no idea how many there are) also contain the same ad? I just thought it was somehow non-U? I know even when I asked boff for the link to her blog she refused, and said she could pm, but wasn't allowed to use mn as free advertising?

Are you an mn blogger, Bach?

I think you're doing the right thing.
Learning from your example that the occasional glass of wine, preferably with a meal, is nice is the way forward.

I think part of the binge drinking problem in this country is the casual attitude towards drinking lots of alcohol.

Interesting point, mad - I hadn't clocked that. I'm a MN blogger but I still wouldn't link to my blog in a post.

Hi Mad

I'm new to this world (forums not earth) so wasn't sure of rules - i've read them but didn't class myself as an advertiser. And at the bottom of this message it has 'convert links automatically' so i thought it was ok. I'm gathering it's not the done thing to add your blog details? No probs - but what's a MN? In fact, where is the list of all these acronyms - i work full time so just don't get a lot of time to explore, any direction appreciation. Cheers.

Mn is just mumsnet - last year mn set up set their own blogsite and invited contributors, I think. There'll be a big click on link for it somewhere on the homepage? (I don't know much about it, as I don't blog) - it just struck me as odd, as I know a couple of people who do blog seem to be very aware of mn etiquette wrt advertising their blogs on here... So not really telling you off, more trying to work it out iykwim? It isn't something I've noticed before, and i know other folk make a point of not including it... There's a blogging board on mn here where it would be really easy to ask, though. Not sure if you've found that one yet?

So I have no idea whether it's a rule, or just not de rigeur... Will see if I can find out.

If/ when I have wine at the dinner table I have it in a tumbler. Makes me feel a bit French. Less conspicuous, but DD still knows that "mummy drinks wine, daddy drinks water", so praps not the solution!

Thanks again. I'll check out mum net blog stuff tmr and c at I can find. I wasn't trying to spam or anything and am really quit new to the whole game ... God knows why? I cld have been having a lot of fun these past few years with all these grt mums online instead of working so much out for myself. I have my good friends but this opens a whole new dimension. Ciao belle.

Hi, we've moved this to Bloggers, thanks.