No support for what i am sure is PND.

[NewMummy48]

I am pretty sure that I have PND, I plucked up the courage to tell my DM on the phone that I think I have it and she said "Don't be so stupid, It?s your Dick of a husband".

Me and DH have been having some trouble in our relationship lately and I asked him to take a morning off of work so I could go to the GP about what I think is PND and his reply was "No, I like work so I don't want to take anytime off" he also keeps saying that he prefers being at work than at home, he has said some pretty horrible things to me lately and I do not understand how he has just become so hostile towards me.

I have taken the PND test online and got a score of 25, I also have pretty much all of the symptoms of having it.

I have no family or friends around me, I am 20 and my DS is 9 months old, I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't want to take my DS to the appointment as I don't want him to be in that situation.
Please I need advice, WWYD?

[RationalBrain]

Hi NewMummy48, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time at the moment, and that your 'D'H is being stupendously unsupportive. Your DH's lack of support could well be a factor in feeling depressed, but whether it is or not, it would be good to see your GP to get some help in the first instance. Then, when you start to feel better, you can tackle your DH.

You asked WWID - I would take your DS along to the appointment, assuming there isn't anyone who can watch him for you. He's too young to understand any of what is being said. I understand that you'd prefer to keep him away, but its more important that you see your GP and get the process of help started.

This area of MN is pretty quiet - I would ask for this to be moved to mental health (and also maybe start a new thread in relationships to ask for advice on how to tackle your DH when you feel ready). You can move the post by 'reporting' your own post and asking MNHQ to move it.

Good luck with the GP.

[CurlsRUs]

So sorry to hear you are going through this alone... Could you phone your health visitor and ask if you can chat with her about it? Mine was amazing, although I did start having PND symptoms early, when she was still coming to my house for check-ups and she picked up on it then. But she gave me loads of support.

BTW, I took DS along to GP appointments where I was talking about PND symptoms/treatments etc and it was fine! Gave me someone to cuddle when I cried...

[3duracellbunnies]

Agree with Rationalbrain if your H isn't going to be helpful I would ring up and see if you can see someone. Unless you have a fav doctor, I would ring and tell receptionist that you think you have PND and could you see someone asap. It is also possible for other conditions to produce similar symptoms - I had a low thyroid after dd2, was convinced was PND, Dr did some blood tests and turned out I was lacking a hormone.

Your 'd' H doesn't sound very supportive. Once you have seen dr would you be able to stay with your mum for a bit, she sounds a bit critical and not keen on your H but she might be able to give you a bit of space to sort out your feelings.

Your ds will be fine going with you, or if he goes to sleep easily maybe walk there with him in pushchair and he can have a sleep. Try ringing them now, lunchtime is often a good time to catch a dr who might be able to talk to you on the phone. Please.