if you received a text like this about your child.

[ariadne1]

If you had a bit of a fall out with a sports coach and later on that evening received a text slating your child. The email is unfair making derogatory comparisons between your child and much older children and blaming your child for poor performance of other team members and the xpression on their face which I read as concentration, they read as sulky.

[ariadne1]

sorry the comment about other team members should explain my child is team captain . not anything to do with organisation of team just the lack of other players ability.
Also should add quite possibly a drunken text.Child is 10.Dh is furious and thinks it is unprofessional.

[MrClaypole]

Sounds completely unprofessional to me and I'd be speaking to the coach and/or his/her manager about it.

[marquesas]

I wouldn't be happy at all. Does the coach have a boss you could show the message to?

[SilverSixpence]

sounds v unprofessional, I would definitely speak to them and/or make a complaint officially. Also keep the text and write it down for reference.

[Thegoddessblossom]

Massively unprofessional, and totally out of order IMHO and I would be livid.

[sooperdooper]

Hugely unprofessional - can you complain to someone higher up and show them the text???

[babyheaves]

Was it a text or email?

I'm also confused as to whether your DC is the team captain despite being younger than the other players.

[ariadne1]

Sorry text.I look at both on my phone!! Comparing her to captains of older teams.
There is a welfare officer who Icould raise the subject with Thanks for your replies .It is good to have some impartial perspective.

[4boyzmum]

Something similar happened to a friend of mine. She removed her DC from that sports club and he now plays happily in another team run by NORMAL adults!!

[ariadne1]

The trouble is it's always the best coaches that are so horrible.

[4boyzmum]

NOOO! Not at all....the best coaches are firm and can look to be tough on kids from time to time. Hell of a difference between being a bully and trying to get the best from a child. The BEST coaches are those that get the balance right.

[nancy75]

I work in child sports coaching (in the office rather than on court) if a coach of ours sent a text being nasty about a child they would face serious repercussions.
As for saying that the best coaches are always bullies, that is just not true, a good coach will encourage a child, they should be firm when needed but not just nasty for the sake of it

[4boyzmum]

Bullying and critisism will just sap a child of his/her confidence and be completely detrimental in how they perform. Could end up putting them off for life. Competitive sports is by its very name just that and so of course expectations of a child performing their best is a given if they choose to participate. All kids should be encouraged to be the best they can be and very often know themselves without having it pointed out to them if theyve not done their best in a game. I dont agree at all in the 'its taking part that counts' argument. Non competitive sports days within school for example are a real gripe of mine but that is another issue altogether!! My 10 yo DC plays in a team and at that age its so hit and miss....some days he plays like a dream...others - thankfully not often - its as if he's a complete novice!! Very frustrating!! Constructive critisism on those days and heaps of praise for the better days are in my opinion the best ways to be. I'd never tell him he'd done brilliantly when he hadnt...but in the same way i'd never give him a total bollocking for it either!! And i wouldnt tolerate it from his coach.