My dh has a new job and we need to relocate. At the moment he works away mon-fri and comes home at weekends. This is having a negative impact on the ds who is 4 and about to start school and dh is missing both ds and dd (1).
I have a good job here but it is easier for me to move to another job as I am a teacher and jobs in his industry don't come up in this area.
We will be moving back to my home town which is going to mean a commute for dh of an hour and a half but we felt that it was better to move somewhere where we knew people and the place where my dh works is too expensive for us to buy anyway.
Very few teaching jobs come up in this area however. One has come up today in a city that would be about an hours commute for me and I don't know whether to go for it or not.
Against is
It is not a great job compared to the one I have now. Poor facilities, not much commitment to the subject, no resources.
I would be in a single person department again having only just managed to get someone else in where I am now
I am very supported where I am and this is unusual. I am scared of ending up somewhere where my line manager is unpleasant and sadly lots of them are.
In the winter the roads can be bad here for snow and I don't fancy the commute in bad weather.
And finally I think I would be really far away from the kids if something were to happen - if one of them got sick for example. Also I think childcare would be a nightmare as I would have to leave very early to get in on time and so would need someone to do the school drop and pick up and take dd from very early.
For
I have a good change of getting it, the last job in this area only had two applicants, generally people don't want to work in that area preferring the city locations.
It would mean we aren't paying out for two households
It would mean we could all be together and the kids would have their dad around.
It would mean that ds could start in school and not have to move school half way through a term
Another job in this area might not come up for a long time.
I am scared of a horrid job where I am far from the kids but also scared that no other job will come up. If I knew more jobs would come up I probably would wait but I don't want to be sitting six months from now kicking myself for not grabbing the only job going.