Awkward Work situation...sorry long

[BBisTitanium]

I hve worked for my company for almost 4 years, in that time i have ha one maternity leave and dodged redundancy twice, the first time was just before i told them i was pregnant... Having dodged redundancy recently by taking on a completely new role (as in new department new location but also newly created role) this new role takes on aspects of 5 other roles which were made redudant (middle management), and is 3 days when i was previously doing 2, and is actually for less money per hour on paper than i was earning (although informally with me an my new manager its agreed that i leave earlier than on paper, so this balances the money).

This role is meant to be in tandem with with a full time person however they have yet to find someone the pay is peanuts

Anyway the long and short of it is that im now pregnant with auch wanted DC2... However ive not been in the role long and im aware that this isnt going to be popular news with everyone... I should elaborate and say HR team can be very conniving... And my manager ant comprehend why i wont take te part time role (reasons to innumerous to list!!)

Anyway my question is how would you tell the manager? I am thinking sooner than later (have scan next tue however due to PCO i know i'll only be 10-11 weeks not 12) as i wouldnt put it past the company to try and pull a fast one (they have a history).

I should say i do respect my manager he is a nice guy, but obviously i need to look out for number one!

In short what would you say? (word for word?) i have fertility issues so i was going to say that so they know that as wanted as this baby is he or she wasnt planned in the purist sense (ttc over 2 years!)

I plan to prepare a factual email to send the nano second im done talking to him, to him and HR, to protect myself, although i dont plan to reiterate what i say in person... I figure if there is nothing questionable in it then the HR bod cant do anything other than acknowledge it?!

Thanks for reading my mind ramble if you got this far

Sorry for typos on phone and that should read manager cant see why i wouldn't take on the full time role not part time!!

Right, so first congratulations of course! Second, what is it you want to happen/not happen as a result of notifying your work so early? They still have to find a f-t person, that doesn't change. They don't need to start looking for maternity cover for several months, but are you thinking in the f-t interview process they could maybe identify a candidate for maternity cover if they knew they would need one?

The circumstances of your pregnancy are of no concern to your employer, you don't need to tell them anything about how you come to be pregnant so soon after taking a redundancy-avoiding role. If it's going to be thrown back at you, all the more reason to keep it to yourself for now.

Thanks tribpot, my company are the type that would possibly try and say the PT role
Isn't needed just the FT if they heard whispers of my pregnancy, so i am thinking I may be more protected that way. Other than that, i will need another scan in rapid succession( as im 9 weeks but hospital think I'm 12- have had private scan but MW said they have to follow own procedures- so will need to have nuchal around 12 weeks) , plus as I had GD with DS MW has stated more appointments etc so thinking in terms of time off as it is quite difficult to rearrange the appointments for days off. Only final reason is that alot of people already know, some of whom are employed by the company... I dont think they would maliciously say anything but id rather it came from me. Oh and id also like to be able to tell the wider world ( not overly important of course)

There isn't much forcing me to say now but I feel it would possibly be to my benefit to? Regarding covering me i hadn't thought of that. I suppose my concern would be that they may again try underhand tactics ( i sound paranoid but im honestly speaking from history) to get me out when they know? I am quite possibly tying myself in knots!!

Bump

Right, so you seem torn between thinking your job is safer if they don't know but more complicated to arrange the hospital appointments, but also aware that it will look bad if the news comes from someone else.

Under the circs, I'd still be tempted not to tell (at least until you know what your schedule of appointments is going to be) and if you get called on it, say you didn't want to say anything at too early a stage of pregnancy (or be brutally honest and say you thought they would eliminate your role if they found out).

At the moment presumably they'd be up shit creek if they did push you out, with no-one in the f-t role. How actively are they looking, or are they still hoping you will take it?

Ive categorically said no, its too little money and i dont want to, so they are looking, although im not sure they wont try and shuffle internal staff as work short, however as far as I know they are looking. I think my role will be safer if i tell them, as that will add to anything I can bring against them in a worst case scenario, it gives the final piece of the puzzle as it were, i have only ever had glowing appraisals etc and have been complimented on how well im doing etc so i do feel redundancy would be their only option.

I suppose my main query is the wording... I am being scanned tues i would probably be telling work the following monday all being well, i am having blood tests this week that will dictate somewhat the frequency of appointments.

I suppose what im ineloquently trying to say is if it were you would you feel your job safer or more at risk by the news? For me its about the cost and reward... And then secondarily what would you say? Im quite clever honest! but i fluster so easily when i feel like im in someway wrong!!

Bump

I got pregnant after 3 months in a job, told them at 14 weeks so when I'd been there 6 months. I'm afraid I lied and said it was a surprise when in fact we'd been trying for 16mths and I'd taken clomid!

Mine was a part time well paid position and I was very pleasantly surprised with how well they took it.

They did unfairly make me redundant but that was 4 years later and another story altogether! Compensation paid for a nice holiday to Florida though!!

Good Luck!