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Neighbour's toilet habit

17 replies

ItalaItala · 01/06/2012 20:16

Our neighbour lives alone with his dog. He had a partner at one time but she hasn't been seen for c.2yrs.

The problem is he urinates in his garden.

When I first noticed this several years ago I thought it was something to do with putting nitrates back in the soil as I only ever saw him "watering" his gooseberries. BUT since he became single he sprinkles all over the garden with no regard to the fact we have two small children (girls 4yrs & 18mths). For example during the bad weather last winter he stood in his (back) doorway (in a conservatory so all glass) and urinated into the snow in his yard. We cannot get away from it as the only access to our house is past his gate. It has come to a head today as I saw him urinating in his garden and looking round and could clearly see the girls in their bedroom (just playing, climbing on the bed). I went out and asked him not to "do that where the children can see you"

Should I take this further/ report him to someone? If so who?

OP posts:
Marne · 01/06/2012 20:19

I would report him, if you can see him from the window doing it surely he is breaking the law?

He sounds discusting Sad and the smell must be horrid.

DairyNips · 01/06/2012 20:20

That's not on if you have to walk past where he does it to access your property. Aside from that it's unhygienic and not want you want the girls to be seeingAngry

I would report him.

ash6605 · 01/06/2012 20:41

Was tempted to say "his garden, his business" til I read your children can see. Its indecent exposure at the very least, it's a matter for the police

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ItalaItala · 01/06/2012 21:03

Thankyou for your replies.

We can see into his garden from the upstairs windows and half the garden. He knows we have seen him do it before so this is not the first time he has been caught and will now stop. I don't know if the girls have noticed but they haven't said anything... YET!

Who do I report him to? Isn't calling the police a bit extreme? Is there a department of social services I could call?

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SiSiTD · 05/06/2012 21:30

I would contact the police on the non-emergency number and inform them that your neighbour is being anti-social by urinating in place that is visible to others.

Tell them that your children could possible see this and you do not think it is appropriate so could they have a word with him to highlight your concerns and ask him to stop.

It's a gentle start and hopefully he will stop. If he doesn't raise your concerns again and ask for the police to do more - something like an ASBO would, in my opinion, be appropriate.

LadySybildeChocolate · 05/06/2012 21:37

I'd put a sprinkler in the garden and turn it on.

siSi's post is good, non emergency police. It's an offence to urinate in public.

debsl75 · 19/06/2012 19:03

Environmental health at your local council. I would also be tempted to place a small cctv camera up so that it shows mostly your garden, so it looks as though you are only monitoring your own garden, but abit of his where he is most likely to do it. That way you have video evidence to show them. Good luck and don't let it go, you need to sort it out.

mopbucket · 20/06/2012 16:07

Our neighbour does this and he has a 3 yr old dd and a newborn ds Angry

Nagoo · 20/06/2012 16:10

mop surely its his business if he wees in front of his own kids? I wee in front of mine all the time, admittedly not in the garden though.

LaurieFairyCake · 20/06/2012 16:11

He might be doing it to discourage foxes - I've seen that suggested on Mumsnet on the chicken keepers thread - I nearly got my dh to do it after I'd seen a fox Grin.

It wouldn't bother me if that was the reason unless he was 'exposing' himself deliberately -I'd just cheerily ask him to not do where the children could see.

Its not an offence in your own garden - it is if someone can see your cock.

HecateAdonaea · 20/06/2012 16:14

I would phone the police (non emergency number, of course) and tell them about it and ask them to go and have a word.

HecateAdonaea · 20/06/2012 16:15

If you wanted to discourage foxes, couldn't you pee into a bottle and sprinkle it round outside though?

LaurieFairyCake · 20/06/2012 16:32

Of course you could pee in a bottle but he's a bloke - he probably thinks that peeing in a bottle is unnecessary faff.

The OP hasn't said he's some sort of weirdo yet (I'm still waiting, he may well be some sort of freakshow) so he might only just need a cheery 'ho ho you're trying to deter foxes can you piss in a bottle first, don't want the girls to see your nadger'.

ajandjjmum · 20/06/2012 16:36

It's also supposed to discourage badgers - I've had DH do it, but not in front of the neighbours (or DC!!).

I would speak to him directly and say that as your girls are getting older and more aware, could he please perform his ablutions in the normal manner.

If he ignores you - then non-emergency police.

jendot · 23/06/2012 07:55

My dh would love to be allowed to pee in the garden!! ( I vetoed it as soon as I realised he was doing it). I reckon it's an ingrained marking your territory thing! Yuk

ajandjjmum · 23/06/2012 13:36

I promise it's not a regular thing jendot - just on a few occasions, and the badgers went!

boneyjonesy · 15/07/2012 20:51

I can't see what business it is of yours? Tell yoiur DDs not to gawp

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