Holidays

[IsHeBeingUnusual]

Not sure where to post this...

Dh refuses to go on holiday while dc are young (6 and 3). Jist is its too hard work and not a holiday for him, he may as well as be at work.

We have had a total of 5 days away in 3.5 years.

Myself and the dc would like to go on holiday to centreparcs again. Dh says he won't go with a smile on his face.

So I'm booking to go with a friend (no dc) with our dc.

Wwyd? Is it unusual to go away with dc without dh? Anyone else do it?

Dc are now questioning why he doesn't want to go, I've said he does not like it there and lots of people like different things...at the same time he won't go anywhere else so....my argument is looking a bit wobbley. He basically does not want to be with them on holiday.

I too do not find holidays relaxing as they were once upon a time! But if I'm putting in the bulk of the effort why should he not put himself out a wee bit and make an effort too?...

I know you can't force someone to do something they don't want to do

So if this was your dh wwyd? And is this a bit out there, because the response I get in RL is 'he won't go?!?!?'...give me some balance someone :)

TIA

Bugger him - I'd leave him behind, the miserable sod! Surely a big part of the holiday should be about the kids having fun? But I would avoid Centre Parks - overpriced shit hole.

If he doesn't want to go you go and have a great time. Make sure the Dc ring him every night so he knows they are having fun without him!

Lisaro well I didn't want to say miserable sod...but as you've said it...!! He's going to arrange a night out with the lads when we go away...

*S

ah he's here!! brb

He sounds quite selfish. I agree that holidays with small children aren't exactly relaxing, but it's fun for the DC, creating memories and watching them enjoy theirselves. I think if it was my DH, I'd insist he came for the sake of the DC. Either that or I'd rethink the relationship TBH.

Same as Agent. It's part of being a Dad.
Of course they aren't the same relaxing experiences you had pre-children, but it doesn't mean they can't be just as enjoyable, and creating lovely experiences for the dcs.

I am sorry that this is happening it seems really strange that your DH does not want to be a part of something that is likely to be one of your DCs great childhood memories.

Saying that due to work commitments my DH does not always come with us when we go away. It is only to my parents' house but it is still fun as my parents help out a lot. We go there most school holidays.

It is notbstrange to go away without your DH, but I would say that these particular circumstances are strange. Hope it resolves itself.

Thanks for responses!

As I was saying....ahem Sirzy my friend is v excited, I feel sad and a bit scared to go alone but excited...part of me glad not to have him being stressed around me all the time...permanent face like this on him...and he won't respond to calls from dc! As in he will see it for what it is...would get to me but not him...hoping them asking him why he is not going will make him uncomfortable!! Will tell them to ask daddy next time...is that childish or reasonable? After all I'm not all that sure why he doesn't want to go anyway...

AgentProvocateur he will come, but be grumpy. I would rather he was not there. And selfish...he does do all childcare from getting home from work, and he takes turns putting them to bed, gets them dressed and fed in the morning...he's not a non exisitant dad...he puts the hours in...and that's why he doesn't want to go, feels he will do all the 'childcare' and I ....well I do all the flipping housework he considers unneccessary!! Ie shopping/washing up/tidying up...I didn't go for a spa or anything else last time! Its not like I'm out gallavanting!!! I wish...and there is no internet so I'm not doing that either!

Backforgood totally agree!

aggh!!

I am wondering if he is sulking a wee bit he likes to go on hols to somewhere I find utterly depressing. I hate it there...I would rather not go than go there. Dh takes us for route marches walks everyday and its generally bleak grey and windy.

Maybe he feels the same about CentreParcs in the subtropical swimming pool