We met at secondary school and had been best friends ever since. We've essentially grown up together and are now in our 30s but things have changed over the last 2 years and I'm finding it a drain. We are quite different but mostly gave always got on. She's much louder and more confident than me and has always had a superiour attitude. She is married with 3 children I was single and it made sense for me to always visit her and make the effort making food for every single childs party over the last 4 years. I met a lovely man who did thousands of pounds worth of work for them over his spare time, it's always made sense they've got children so need the extra help. We since gave had a baby and both turned 30, they cancelled on the same day for both our parties, only bbqs in the day so very child friendly. They haven't come round for over a year now even when invited.
We met over Christmas at a mutual friends and she flirted outrageously with my dp, he was embarrased and tried standing up for me as she keptcalling him poor thing and saying how he needed a good night out, he could join her if I wasn't willing to leave the baby etc, just generally undermining me to him. I attended her sons birthday tea and she was speaking about a girls night out and just didn't invite me even when I spoke to her in the day. So many more examples.
The thing that's really upset me is it was my babys first birthday and she sent a text an hour before saying they couldn't make it but saying my dp could pop round if the party was all too much, it really upset me and after thinking about it I came to the conclusion she just doesn't like me. Then I get a really friendly text about poping round for lunch or she talks about being my bridesmaid next year. I'm just finding it a bit hard work, but don't know if it's worth sticking at it and maybe things will settle when Dcs are older. Sorry this is so long, quite a cathartic rant!