Ok I'm going to try to be brief....and try not to sound insane.
There is a mum who lives opposite me.Kids go to the same school and get on well. The kids wanted to walk to school together, and so they started to call for us every morning (which is a bit of a pain as she likes to leave 15 mins earlier than me.) But anyway it was quite ok for a while, shes ten years younger than me, we have pretty much nothing in common. I find her VERY opinionated, she tends to shout you down a bit when you have a different opinion to something, she'll often start her reply with a shouted "NO, but..." I find that a bit tiring first thing in the morning.
Also she tends to get VERY pally with other mums, to the point that their kids will sleep over all weekend at her house and they will be seeing each other all the time, then suddenly she will fall out with them. This year, I have seen her fall out with about four other mums that I can think of and various friends who arent at the school. She will usually send them a text telling them to "fuck off" then ignore them as if she cant see them. Honestly, its ludicrous and a bit mental. Since ive witnessed her doing this a few times, and also because I dont really want to become close friends with her, I have been friendly but have not got TOO friendly.
Cut to a few weeks ago and we had this daft discussion where she was being really mean about one of the teachers and i disagreed with her. She got very shouty,(this is on the morning school run!!) and just kept shouting the same sentence at me in a slightly crazed way, as if if she shouted it louder I would suddenly see her point!! After that I could tell she was annoyed with me. Which is fine. To be honest I felt irritated also. So I decided to start walking in a bit later, distance myself a bit. and she was very offish with me, ignored me at school things that both our kids were taking part in, or said hi in that tight lipped "I hate you but HI" way!! but I just carried on saying a polite "hello" regardless becasue i thought it was silly to totally ignore each other. Today I have received a message on bloody facebook saying "Hi, are you ok, you seem a bit offish with me? HOpe you all are ok x"
So what the actual fuck do I reply to that?! I want to say "well yes I have been , you get on my tits and you've been quite narky and rude the last few weeks" But obviously I cant say that. I cant ignore it, because that looks petty.
Would it be ok to say,
"Hi, sorry if you feel like I have been rude, I didn't mean to make you feel that way. To be honest I could tell I was irritating you after our discussion about the teacher, so I just thought it best to walk in separately and give each other a bit of space! These things happen sometimes, but I certainly didnt mean to make you feel like I was being off with you!"
Oh god, this sounds so utterly petty, you're all going to rip me to shreds aren't you!! It really IS petty, this seems to be the way most of the mums at this school carry on, and I just find it all so exhausting, I just want to drop my kids off and not get into all the petty arguments and friendship circle weirdness.
Sorry this is so hideously long, I have a real problem with writing concise OP's!! If you got to the end, congrats.