Me and DP want to get/be married, but we don't want A Wedding. We do not relish the idea of having loads of family and friends witnessing us blushing and stumbling over the vows, don't want the big dress, bridemaids, etc. I actually find the whole idea of people sitting behind us listening to it intensely embarassing for some reason. We just don't want to be centre of attention. What I would most like to do is a register office on a weekday morning while the children are school, with two witnesses. Might sound awful, but there we go.
The problem is various members of family when we've mentioned anything about it have threatened to never speak to us again (melodramatic and exaggerated no doubt but they would be angry), say they'd be very hurt, disappointed etc.
So we are in a situation where we've been together for twelve years, have been engaged for most of that time but don't feel like we can actually ever marry. Either we would upset a lot of people by getting married privately, or we'd have to do the proper wedding thing to keep everyone else happy, and it wouldn't be the way we want it. I suppose the easiest option is just carry on as we are.
So, wwyd?