Best Friends wedding

[Johnny2good]

Me and my wife recently got a beatiful baby boy...I love him with everything I have.
Soon my best friend is going to have his wedding party (he got married earlier on officially only with his wife and a witness present and now is inviting everyone for a custom ceremony and reception). He told me he would really appreciate it if I was there. I really want to go as he is my best friend, we have been through a lot together and I would really like to honour him getting married by being there for him.
My wife was willing to go with me and our newborn, who would be 10 weeks old by then. Now she changed her mind as she is scared it will be too much for the little man. I can see that going all together could be too much.
When I proposed to go on my own she exploded and accused me of abandoning her. She told me that if I go to this wedding I don't have to bother coming back.
The whole trip back and forth including the wedding can be done in 24hrs.
As I do not feel leaving her with the baby for 24 hours at ten weeks of age is too much asked I now feel she is forcing me to choose between my friend and the baby.
I feel terrible that I cannot attend my best friends wedding but she basically will shut me off from contact with her and the baby if I decide to visit his wedding.
Is she being reasonable or not?

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. This is my first by the way so well done for that.

On the face of it, I can see why you would think she is being unreasonable.
I can also see from her perspective, why she might feel you are being unreasonable.
Emotions and hormones and protective instincts are all at their highest right now. Perhaps you could think of a compromise solution? Is the wedding celebration far away - could you go as a family and stay overnight? Then your wife, if she wanted, could take your son to the hotel room if she felt he was getting overwhelmed.
FWIW, I went to my best friend's wedding when ny DD was 5 weeks old. it was a lovely day, baby slept through most of it, but I was very glad to get home and rest in comfort by early evening

On the face of it, she is BU.

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I haven't had our first baby yet - due in a few weeks' time. I would send my DH with my blessing to his best friend's wedding. I couldn't possibly ask him to miss something so important. That's what life is all about.

If I felt like being on my own with the baby would be too much for me, I'd ask family/friends to stay/help so I had some support.

There are ways round these situations - if everyone has a mind to make it work. I do think your DW is feeling overwhelmed and I'm sorry she's being unreasonable.