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Would you share information with another parent appealing for the same secondary school?

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drivinmecrazy · 08/03/2012 16:21

Found out today that a friend (not close) is appealing for the same school as us. Was actually really quite shocked cos she is so close to the school, but would appear that due to admissions criteria she missed out. The school is heavily over subscribed.
Our appeal is based primarily on an academic basis, DD1 cannot take the GCSEs at allocated school but can do both at this. As I have been preparing our appeal I have found out all sorts of little bits of info which would be helpful to both our cases. She appears to be appealing on distance alone.
Should I share this information with her or keep it to myself? I am keeping the main part of our appeal to myself, cos really don't want our case weakened by others suddenly using similar reasons (though we can get evidence for ours, not sure if she could even if she used the same info). DH has all but forbidden me from talking to this friend, and indeed anyone else appealing to the same school.
It's all making me very anxious, so would you play things very close to your chest? Can probably avoid her (and about three others) for the next two weeks till the deadline for submission is up. Am inclined to agree with DH, but seems very cloak and dagger and deceitful, OTOH the outcome could really be worth it

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GladysLeap · 08/03/2012 16:32

If you are both appealing for the same school and she lives closer, then no, I wouldn't share. I know that seems horribly selfish and all that but how would you feel if you gave her the info and her child got in while yours didn't?

Presumably if you were able to find the information she could too?

drivinmecrazy · 08/03/2012 16:36

Thats what I need to think. Her DD is also higher up the waiting list than us, we are only 13, so she will probably get in that way any way. All seems a bit 'dog eat dog' at the moment.

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ariadne1 · 15/03/2012 14:59

what the appeal panel will look at is

  1. can any more children be admitted
  2. If so, which child has most priority.

therefore any information that helps with point 1 should be shared , but not items to help with point 2.

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