A few months ago, Dh and I were in a pretty bad place - although he'd arranged to work at home for some of the week, with 4dc's and me unable to do almost everything, the house was falling down around us. Mount Nevervest (the undone washing) pretty much covered the entirety of our bedroom. So, a friend, who was currently out of work, offered to come round and help out. Of course we said we'd have to give them something for helping out on a regular basis, so we offered the absolute maximum we could afford, which wasn't much, but does cover MW.
It has helped us a lot, but basically he comes on the days DH isn't here, does the washing up, tidies the front room, puts on a load of washing, and hovvers and sweeps the front room floor. In 3 hours.
Now Dh hasn't been here this week, so I've been doing the cooking, which as I'm pretty incapable, has meant more convenience meals and a lot less washing up. So there's been no washing up, and a lot less mess in general.
We've long known he's really taking the piss a bit, saying he's hoovered the stairs when he blatently hasn't. Today, he said he'd done the bathroom, but when I went to the loo after he'd gone, the mirror hadn't been cleaned, the bottom of the pedestal hadn't been touched, and I'm now quite cross.
But, because he's a friend, I just feel I can't say anything, and if I did, there's no way it wouldn't come out in a bad way.
DH has said we'll just have to leave it until Adult SS direct payments start, whereupon we can end it because he's claiming ESA and doesn't want to claim he's earning another £40/week. But I'm just sick of hearing his 'oh woe is me, I'm so strapped for cash', and feeling like we'd be the biggest bastards in the world to tell him to fuck off, but I can't think of a nice way to end this. Please help me - I'm pretty much at the end of my emotional tether with everything going on anyway, I really need some good, (gentle!) advice on this one!