ExH's contact with DC

[room4another1]

After ExH messed around with contact and made accusations my DP was hindering his contact with DC we came to a set contact arrangement. On the first contact he asked for money to buy food for DC and brought them back early. On second contact he failed to provide teatime meal and brought them back over hour early claiming he thought that was the arrangement and last week during holidays when he was supposed to have DC for half the school break he shipped them off to his Mum and Sister's.

Myself and DP moved house over the weekend and ExH has been creating a fuss about us moving the DC schools despite us explaining the move was to obtain better support for DS in a nursery where he will receive the one on one support he requires (he has an IEP which the previous nursery couldn't facilitate)

Now we've moved I have texted asking him if he wanted to keep contact as per arranged or make more suitable arrangements now we live further away and he cannot drive. He has not replied and today is contact day and he has not shown up to collect DS and does not know where to or what time to collect DD1 and DD2 from school. I am now considering cancelling all contact and letting him take me to court. Is this the best course of action?

Sorry so long

It's your children's rights that you would be messing with, not your ex's.

Just don't know what else to do. Tried talking to him about consistent contact. Spoke to his Mum who then spoke to him but nothing makes difference. He just keeps not bothering and then blaming it on everything and everyone else.

I would just wait until you next hear from him then go from there.
I understand how stressfull it all is, been there twice myself.....

Yeah, guess wait and see. Not much more you can do..

Don't get into the habit of telling your kids when your ex is supposed to be having contact, just keep saying you don't know when he is coming. This, at least, will allay some of the disappointment they might feel when Daddy doesn't turn up.

Yes, it is your childrens right to have contact but in my opinion, it is also their right to be treated fairly and properly. We wouldn't tell a grown up to put up with people not turning up and letting them down, so why should we encourage our children to?

I don't think you're wrong for wanting consistent, reliable contact for your children.

Make sure you give your ex the opportunities to see the kids but don't let him dictate all your lives every weekend either.