My DH and I and our children are lucky enough to be living rent free in the house he grew up in. We have lived here for a long time after living in a council property after we were repossessed many years ago. My deceased FIL stated that he always wanted his son (my DH) to have the house as the other child didn't want or need the money or property. My MIL passed away over a year ago and we were always led to believe that the property deeds would then become DHs. The other sibling has control of all the legal financial stuff and it has not been mentioned. My DH is rather frustrated about this for a few reasons: He wants to know where he stands with regard to the property, especially should anything happen to either of us, The property is in dire need of repair - it is falling down around us really, even the kids are joking about it. We are quite a poor family, despite not paying rent, complicated to go into really but only one wage earner on a low income, hence no money over to do any major repairs. The last reason is that he feels powerless - is the other sibling witholding the information for a reason, it feels rather like a control issue. DH is a very unassuming person and was always quite in awe and dominated by his mother and I think he feels this way regarding the other sibling, he is a bit worried about asking. We do live a long way from them and he feels it is not something that can be discussed over the phone. If we wait until he can go and see them it may take a while as the petrol cost is quite a lot and we are living on a tight budget at the moment. It does seem awful to complain when so many are struggling to pay rent/mortgage, but are we being unreasonable in wanting to know where we stand and what would you do?.