My DC1 is 3 weeks old and my brother still hasn't come by to see her, despite the fact that he drives past our town every day on the way home from work!
He has 2 children himself, one of whom is only 4 months old, so I'm not expecting a full on visit from the entire family. But he was supposed to pop in last week on his way home from work and he didn't, he didn't even text (let alone call!) until 9pm when he said he'd been off work ill, hadn't had his phone on, and had forgotten he was visiting. If he was ill, fine, I appreciate him not bringing a stinking cold around to my newborn, but he had obviously completely forgotten about us 
My brother has had a lot of financial problems over the past few years and my parents have helped him out loads - I've even (happily) bought clothes for my 3 year old nephew when my brother was so strapped for money that they couldn't afford to buy him some - but he has always made it quite hard for them to visit their grandkids, acting as if they are an imposition, and has often criticised them for their behaviour around his children. Not that they are bad, at all, its just the usual clash of opinions between different generations on little things about child raising. As the years have gone by my parents have become more and more frustrated with him and his wife, and I have to say I understand because he just takes, takes, takes and then refuses to give anything back (for example, he never calls or texts them with an update about the children, he only ever calls them when he needs something) and he makes them feel as though its such a hardship in his life to have them over for a few hours a fortnight to see their grandkids.
Anyway, he and his wife haven't been remotely interested in my pregnancy and now the baby is here - including a 5 day stay in SCBU after her birth - they haven't even sent a card, and now he has failed to get in touch to rearrange his visit 10 days later. During my pg our mum made odd comments that if he failed to show any interest in my DD then that would be the final straw for her, so I seriously think they might cut contact with him when they find out he's failed to visit me.
The thing is, my nephew dotes on my parents and I don't want to be the reason they stop seeing their other grandchildren. My mum in particular can be rather emotional and stubborn at times like this... But then again, my brother is being an absolute arsehole, if you ask me, so I don't really want to make excuses for him and defend him to my parents. I mean, how hard is it to pop in for 15 minutes on his way home from work to see his first niece?!
Aaargh! I have no idea how to deal with this! Any suggestions?